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1.25 am son not home

 
 
dadpad
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 06:29 pm
DrewDad wrote:
A nice, full accounting of where he was the whole time... in writing... with recommendations for his own punishment.

Oooohhhh this is goooooood. He'd hate that.

Dag your spoiling the fun.

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It will help if your wife cries softly into a tissue and repeats over and over "we were so worried, we were so scared"
After he apologizes, and shows true regret, you can chain him to the basement furnace for a few days to hammer the point home.


This would be good if we had a basement and a furnace.
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Eva
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 06:30 pm
He probably just got up, dadpad. They were up late, you know.

Besides, he has to work on his alibi. Cool I'm sure that right now, he's trying to figure out what he's going to say.
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Arella Mae
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:18 pm
I am so glad that your child is ok. My mom would have and did on occasion "knock me into next Tuesday".

Then I had to sit down and write it all out (as you suggested) but the part I hated most was I had to write out the feelings of those that were concerned about me i great detail. That was torture but I learned a valuable lesson.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:24 pm
Yoiks, what a read.

Glad he's OK.

As for punishment... dunno.
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mckenzie
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:25 pm
I had some comments written that I've now deleted ... deleted ... deleted since dadpad's last post.

Wow! He hasn't shown his face yet? That's big for a 16-year-old who hasn't really broken the rules before. Ouch!

As the parent of two (now both in their 20s), I have a fairly good idea of how you and your wife feel right about now, dadpad.
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dagmaraka
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:36 pm
Eva wrote:
Yes, dag, I think he needs to know there will be consequences to pay if he breaks the rules. Why? Because life is like that.

I don't think we're doing kids any favors by excusing them because "they just did it once," or "he's really a good kid," or "it's a learning experience." Kids test limits all the time, and they need us to be consistent. After all, an employer is not going to understand when they don't show up for work and say, "But, I was almost at the next level!" The police are not going to be impressed when they ticket him for illegal parking because "I was in a hurry, and I was only going to be there for a minute!" The IRS is not going to forgive him because he "forgot" to pay his taxes. If we want to raise responsible adults, they have to know we really mean it when we set limits. Because we're supposed to teach them the way the real world works.

That said, I have an almost-14-year-old, so I am mostly here to take notes. :wink:


i didn't mention any of those excuses and don't think any of the sort should be made. just recounting what i remember working for me. i might have gotten punished as a teenager- i honestly don't remember that though. i do remember the long talk with my parents (i could still recount parts of it) in the kitchen when i was just about 15 and did somethig equally stupid. that stuck with me to this day.
i gather this is the first time dp Jr. did something of the sort. i might be more inclined to agree with the punitively inclined if he was a chronic rule-breaker.
Talking, just as punishment, is also a consequence of the action. It's not letting someone 'off the hook' - it's trusting them enough to rely on their conscience. 16 year old should be capable to sort it out, he already knows he did something very wrong. Punishment often makes it easier, kinda like when you get forgiveness in the church (whasitcalled...) - i sinned, but then i had to say the Rosary 10 times and I was forgiven (yes, that is grossly simplified). i also don't think that teaching a kid 'how the real world works' should be done through punishment. can't see it.
but sorry, i am starting to just repeat myself and that gets annoying, so i'll butt out and just read on to see how the saga evolves.
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makemeshiver33
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:51 pm
Hummm.....you found out where he was at 3:30 a.m, and its close to noon and he's still not shown up?

I'd hate to of thought what my parents would have done to me if I had been found at 3:30 a.m, and I didn't miracously appear at 3:31 a.m standing at full salute.




(My oldest one is 13, and I know its coming.....)
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:58 pm
Mine is 12 years old, but I don't see that problem forthcoming once
she enters the convent.
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makemeshiver33
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:58 pm
Hey Dag....

Quote:
i do remember the long talk with my parents (i could still recount parts of it) in the kitchen when i was just about 15 and did somethig equally stupid. that stuck with me to this day.


I remember those sorted lectures, they went in one ear and out the other. The same sorted details was repeated over and over and over till I was sick of sitting there, and usually seething by the time they released me to go to my room to think about what they had to say.

These were 3 and 4 hour lectures that usually occured after I was beaten for whatever it was that I sopposedly done wrong.

I got the point the first round.....

I just totally disagree with the lectures from my experience.

Make it short, sweet and get to the point.......
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 07:59 pm
the convent Laughing

send me their number..
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Rockhead
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:01 pm
Shewolf, I want a video of your interview wit the nuns, on sign up day.... Cool
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:05 pm
No interview needed..they mean business

http://www.eden.rutgers.edu/~kevinn/misc/funny/nuns.jpg
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:09 pm
CalamityJane wrote:
Mine is 12 years old, but I don't see that problem forthcoming once
she enters the convent.



Now, now......convents have often been hot-beds (pun intended) of hot sex, you know.......


And.......


When she made her first communion
Esther made the perfect union
In her dress of white and wispy veil
Esther�s parents said to please us
You got to go an marry Jesus
And her father took her to the alter rail

When she made her first communion
Esther made the perfect union
And that night she though of him in bed
She decided if he sees us
We ought to get a look at Jesus
And she began to see the one she wed

I began to see little Jesus
He was sitting on my bed
That�s what Esther told her mother
And to which her mother said
You�re an evil child to tease us
Glory be I hope to Jesus
That your father never hears this
He would wash your mouth with soap

When she made her first communion
Esther made the perfect union
But she never saw his little face again
Yeh her mother said don�t tease us
So instead of seeing Jesus
She began to see a lot of other men

What she saw was quite a collection
Older men and young ones too
Cousins friends and even a brother
One at a time and quite a few
She began to see a gay uncle
Who resembled Billy Graham
She began to see perfect strangers
She didn�t even know by name

When she made her first communion
Esther made the perfect union
But she never saw his face again
Yeh her mother said don�t tease us
So instead of seeing Jesus
She began to see a lot of other men
But she never told her mother again
No she never told her mother again
No
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:11 pm
Rockhead wrote:
Shewolf, I want a video of your interview wit the nuns, on sign up day.... Cool


I dare ya to join me..
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:14 pm
Don't scare me dlowan, but I should know better - having survived
catholic school myself. We couldn't wait to be bad!! Laughing
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:17 pm
CalamityJane wrote:
Don't scare me dlowan, but I should know better - having survived
catholic school myself. We couldn't wait to be bad!! Laughing



My ex-Catholic friends tell me that nobody can sin like a convent school goil. :wink:
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:19 pm
CalamityJane wrote:
Mine is 12 years old, but I don't see that problem forthcoming once
she enters the convent.


Just read this and have to jump ahead and snort...

back on crime and punishment later.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:21 pm
(I did sign up, I've got creds....)
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shewolfnm
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:26 pm
Google
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Joe Nation
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2008 08:27 pm
He's still not home.

Joe(I'm very troubled)Nation
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