Thanks for your reply.
Our relationship actually started 7 weeks after his wife died. I know how it sounds, which is why we are both being sensitive to the feelings of his family and friends (a lot of whom were her friends too).
As I said before, I have only been to his house once since we got together, but I will probably be there again soon.....if his wife’s toothbrush is still there, I will understand. I would never be so insensitive as to remove it or even to suggest that he do so.
I appreciate what you say about biding my time and supporting him.....I fully intend to do this. I am happy to listen and provide a shoulder to cry on when he talks about his wife. In fact, just the other day we were talking and he commented on how understanding I had been.
You are probably right re what you said about his reluctance to tell people.....this "issue" is getting to me more than it should. I do genuinely understand why he is finding this difficult. We actually had a long talk about it yesterday, and he said that he is thinking about telling his brother about me, to "test the water" before he tells anyone else. I assured him that I am not putting any pressure on him to tell people, and he said that he wants to tell people soon because he is sick of having to lie to people about where he is going and who with.
So.....time will tell, I guess. I will continue to be patient and show him that he can trust me. And I will trust him to tell people when he feels that the time is right.
Thanks again for your advice and input.