Baby's in black (lists) and I'm feeling blue.

Sounds good. Sounds VERY good.

I'm glad you have this intelligent help. I suppose it won't all be smooth. Sounds like you have a new nest of support for Mo, pretty much unexpectedly. I suppose there will be black days - on which I've no expertise to comment except, hang in there.

Now you all have a local nest of support (not that your old neighborhood isn't, I'd add that in), and a semihemidemi international nest.

(((((boomer and Mo and Mr. B too)))))

This sounds very promising!

<exhales>

You've crossed the Rubicon. I have my fingers crossed.

Hold your dominion.

Just catching up with the last several pages. Drying eyes.

My insides are all happy for you, Boomer!

Someone really smart once told me: "Sometimes you have to let go in order to hold on." Wishing you a new, happy starting line....

From last week's Newsweek:

http://services.newsweek.com/search.aspx?offset=0&pageSize=10&sortField=pubdatetime&sortDirection=descending&mode=summary&q=When+Adoption+Goes+Wrong

That is so terribly sad.

Does anyone know what happened to the babies who were in the hospital creche when the earthquakes leveled great chunks of Mexico City a few years ago?

Seven or so newborn babies were found alive after having been buried in the ruins for five days. I wondered at the time and continued wondering what those five days of isolation would have done to their psyches.

You mean this story, Noddy?


NY Times



It's truly a sad tragical story where the adoptive mother just snapped
after an emotional melt down. I always wonder why potential adoptive
parents seek children from other countries when we have so very
many children looking for a home here in the United States. It certainly
isn't a guarantee for a smooth ride, but at least our poor kids
aren't neglected and/or abused in those dreadful orphanages.

I guess, I can consider myself fortunate of having adopted such a
perfect child that she is (in my view anyways).

Calamity Jane--

Many thanks. I know much more now that I did this morning.

1985? I guess that could be "a few years". Those "babies" would be of legal age by now.

I wonder whether anyone has done any research on the long-term effects.

Long term effects of what? The babies form the earthquake or
the babies being held in orphanages?

I saw that Newsweek article. Astounding stuff. My neighbor adopted a child from Russia and her life is.... uh..... hard. Really hard.

As a child I knew an adoption that went bad though and it was an American child who was adopted so I don't think it is necessarily a foreign born adoption problem.

I think the majority of adoptions go off without a hitch but some of them have problems and the problems can be pretty big. In comparison to some I know my situation is managable but I am still very often overwhelmed.

I don't know how the "big problem" people do it. Honestly I don't.

Calamity Jane--

I'm thinking of the new born babies trapped for days with no love and cuddling.