I am so confused as to why I can not let my husband go
even though he has been gone for so long. There have been so many moments, fleeting moments, where I can see a glimmer of the man I fell in love with but
then in an instant the cold, lost, hurtful, lonely, depressed, confused, distant monster reveals himself once more.
I don't know why I can't accept that this is the end of my marriage. I think & re-think the events that led us here but time & time again I come to the conclusion that this can not be the end. How can I love him so much still, even though he shows me no signs of love at all & hasn't since
well I cant remember when?
I cry each time I see him because I just want to go to him & scoop him up in my arms & make him realize that we are worth holding on to.
On Christmas Eve my gift touched his heart and made him cry. He told me that night that he was going to get psychiatric help. He said he wanted to come back home. That night he did and stayed until New Years Eve. That was the last time he tried to come back and since then he has not made any attempts to see a psychiatrist.
Sometimes I feel I can't move on because I have to see him when he comes to see our son. It's not as if our relationship was bad for so many years and so now it's just a relief that he is out of my life. I was left in the dark that he was doubting our relationship and have not been given any answers as to what I did to make him leave in the first place. Sometimes I think it would be easier if he had just totally abandoned us. At least then I would be forced to accept that he is gone, but he has only abandoned me emotionally and each time I see him just brings back every ounce of pain I felt the first time he left. I keep reliving it over & over each time he passes through and I don't know how to detach myself from "Us".
I feel pathetic, hopeless
I am so lost & lonely and my best friend isn't there for me because my best friend is the cause of all of this.
I know I need to get help myself but I just can't bring myself to make the appointment. I don't know why Im so scared to, I guess Im scared that I will be helped into letting go and deep down inside I just can't bear the thought that this is really over?