Re: Is there such a thing as "emotional cheating"?
snood wrote:Is there such a thing as cheating "emotionally"? I've heard different takes on it - from the Puritan view that to simply lust with the eyes is "committing adultery in the heart", to the view that anything goes as long as there's no touching.
I enjoy flirting sometimes, but I know I wouldn't appreciate it if I saw my wife do the exact same things as I do (trying to chat up cute female customers at work) with men.
Just thinking out loud here, sort of - curious about what y'all think...
I don't think what you're doing by flirting is emotionally cheating, snood. At least not the way you've described it. I also don't think there would be anything wrong with Mrs snood doing something similar. I'm reminded of more than a few waitresses I've seen in action while serving Mr B. He gets a special twinkle in his eyes when someone is going to bring him food. He hams it up a bit and, sure enough, gets preferential service. THEN, when it's time to order desert (something the waitress has direct control over) the twinkle turns into a gleam and, wouldn't you know it, he gets half a pie. She gets a great tip and everyone leaves happy.
Why do you suppose you'd be concerned about her being extra chatty when it's all innocent?