Is It Wise to TRUST Our Friends ?

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Is It Wise to TRUST Our Friends ?

Risky; like juggling chain saws
( depending on what u trust them with )

and when there 's a falling out... ??

Wud Martha Stewart have gone away
if her secretary and her friend had not given damaging testimony ?
I suspect that she TRUSTED them;
I doubt that she trusts them anymore.

There r innumerable other examples of friends who have better loyalty
to government than to their own friends.
Remember NY Supreme Court Justice Hortence Gable and her daughter Sucreet ?
Does that tell u anything about loyalty ?

" Wise is he who learns from his mistakes,
but WISER is he who learns from the mistakes of OTHERS. "

Q.E.D.:
Don 't trust anyone with more than u r willing to LOSE.

Whatayathink ?

David

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Depends on the friend. I have two friends that I trust implicitly.

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you state the obvious

but its a good reminder.

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I have gotten to the point where I hardly trust anyone anymore.

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eoe wrote:

Depends on the friend. I have two friends that I trust implicitly.

I think it does.

Character and loyalty to a friend
( above loyalty to a government ) is determinative.
How do u KNOW, before its too late ?
Wud Martha have spoken so freely, if she knew her friends were going to spill the beans ?

Of course, if the friend did something heinous n egregious,
that 's another story.

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flakker wrote:

you state the obvious

but its a good reminder.

I try to help.

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TTH wrote:

I have gotten to the point where I hardly trust anyone anymore.

sounds like u r SAFER

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OmSigDAVID wrote:

TTH wrote:
I have gotten to the point where I hardly trust anyone anymore.
sounds like u r SAFER

Quite the opposite. If there is no one left to trust that means there is no one to turn to if I need help.

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TTH wrote:

OmSigDAVID wrote:
TTH wrote:
I have gotten to the point where I hardly trust anyone anymore.
sounds like u r SAFER
Quite the opposite.
If there is no one left to trust that means there is no one to turn to if I need help.

No.
It does not mean that.

U r better off preparing your OWN defenses against foreseeable misadventures.

U can turn to people for help;
u 'd be well advised not to trust them.

Watch your back.

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That makes no sense to me. If I don't trust someone, why would I go to them for help?

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I think that most opportunist cannot trust eachother.

The name of the game is Capital. To hell with the rest.

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Want to explain that more in depth?

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It is not wise to trust your friends if they are not trustworthy. But why would you have friends that weren't trustworhty? And why don't they trust you.

It is materialism in decay, at the stage of disregard of right and wrong. It's a natural course. Look at the youth.

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Amigo wrote:

It is not wise to trust your friends if they are not trustworthy. But why would you have friends that weren't trustworhty? And why don't they trust you.

It is materialism in decay, at the stage of disregard of right and wrong. It's a natural course. Look at the youth.

U miss the point.

U find out that thay r not trustworthy AFTER thay have betrayed u.

Wud George Washington have given the plans to West Point
to Benedict Arnold if he considered him to be untrustworthy ?

Maybe I shud have named this thread:
" Shud everyone ASSUME that no one is trustworthy ? "

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I have a number of friends that I trust implicitly. The question of whether it is wise to do so or not has never needed to cross my mind. "IF" they were to betray that trust, the friendship would probably never be the same, but I would not regret that I had given them my trust.

Also...I find that we as humans give everyone we interact with a certain amount of trust, and they add to it or take away from that trust with each action they do.

It would be a very sad world if we could not trust anybody.

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vikorr wrote:

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I have a number of friends that I trust implicitly.
The question of whether it is wise to do so or not has never needed to cross my mind.
"IF" they were to betray that trust, the friendship would probably never be the same,
but I would not regret that I had given them my trust.

Do u think that Martha Stewart regrets being candid
with the friends who testified against her
before she was convicted of a federal crime ?

What r the chances that she was considering
the the wisdom of trusting them, during her vacation in federal prison ?

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It would be a very sad world if we could not trust anybody.

OK: the world can be happy:
admittedly,
u CAN trust people; the question is whether that is WISE ? ( like drunken driving ? )

I am not sad,
tho I make it a point not to trust anyone more than necessary.

David

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So is part of trust expecting your friends to perjure themselves in your behalf?

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boomerang wrote:

So is part of trust
expecting your friends to perjure themselves in your behalf?

YES; that expectation IS part of trust and confidence,
however justified or UNjustified that trust may prove to be.
MOTHERS have even ratted out their own children;
( and probably vice-versa, e.g. Judge Hortence Gable and daughter Sucreet ).

My vu of decency, regarding loyalty to your friends:

1) If your friend learns that u have committed some minor infraction ( from a moral perspective ), like bloodlessly
omitting expensive information on your tax forms, or acting on an illegal stock tip: yes,
a decent friend shud keep his mouth shut, or try not to hurt his friend.

2 ) If your friend discovers that u have committed something alarmingly foul
and shockingly egregious ( like what the Rosenbergs did ) then no,
but either way, if u don 't want the information to come out,
u better not assume that your friends will remain loyal to u;
i.e.: " ... TRUST NO ONE... "

David