Re: Having an Affair with a Married Woman
This ought to be fun!
...I met a married woman on Lavalife's intimate section in August of 2003. I wasn't looking for a married woman... she sent me an e-mail and pursued me.
Translation: It wasn't my fault.
We met after talking on the phone and exchanging e-mails for close to a month. We began a "relationship" before anything sexual started.
Translation: I deserve kudo's for not screwing this married woman for nearly 30 days.
He husband works full time, she has 2 teenage daughters and is a homemaker. She felt unfulfilled emotionally, she said.
And when you asked her how she was working together with her husband to improve their situation - what was her answer? When you spoke to hubby about this - what was his response?
She never discussed sex with me regarding her husband. She new to keeps some things under wraps.
Translation: She's keeping her marriage sacred. :wink:
The first day we met for lunch, we went back to my place and had some explosive sex. I figured it was a one-off deal... it wasn't. We immediately fell for each other in the ensuing months.
Translation: We couldn't help ourselves... it just happened.
She told her brother and sister about us. She was either nuts or proud of our relationship. We broke up a few times... mostly because she saw me back on Lava trolling for dates. I figured, hey... you're married, why can't I still look around. I guess I did it to make her jealous. It worked.
Translation: I am the mature one here - and I just needed to let her know that. And dude - what is SHE doing back on Lava?
Flash forward 1 year and 6 months. We have seen each other practically every week, once a week for a few hours. It's illicit, it's fun, it's fueled with raw emotion and passion. I am in love, lust, whatever you want to call it. I think of her every minute of every day. She feels the same way. Then one evening, she gets a major case of the guilts and tells her husband all. I think he found out on his own because she was taking chances... arriving home late, not answering her cell, being elusive with him.
Actually - the two of you deserve each other.
Anyways, she tells me it's over for good. She's not leaving him for me. Why should she? He makes $400,000.00 a year and I make $40,000.00. Then again, we are in California and she gets half even if she's caught cheating.
So - your sex is not quite as good as his money. Sad reality - ain't it there romeo? Maybe if you spent more time working and less time w/married women - you could make a little more $$!
This went down 3 months ago. I thought I'd be able to get over it. Nope. I feel depressed, sick, tired, angry, hurt, you name it. She's first in my thoughts in the morning, last on my mind at bedtime.
I feel so sorry for you.
Then she ae-mails me out of the blue 2 weeks ago, asking how I am. She tells me she misses me. Asks to see me. Iamb not sure what to think. I'm clearly not over her. But I play it cool. Make a long story short, we saw each other again and made love. She told me not to expect anything more than friendship when she arrived. Funny thing is, I asked to see her at a public restaurant. She suggested my place, instead.
Like I said: You two belong to each other. You're truly soulmates - a match made in he.. (oops), well, perhaps not that.
I called her on her way home from my house after the deed was done that afternoon.
Ahhh - 'doing the deed'. You are da man!!!
She seemed aloof and distant. Obviously, the nasty guilt-monster attacked her early this time.
I'm afraid to call her back. We haven't e-mailed each other or called each other. What's worse than a broken heart? An uncertain one. What do I do now? Lay low until she calls? Play hard to get?
Uh - find another married one dude. You've got it all figured out now.
Bottom line. I love her and can't shake her from my mind. Do I walk away? Hope for the best and call her? What do I say? What do I do? Please help! I am slowly losing my mind.
Hey Greg: I have an idea - call her husband & ask if he has any sisters. Heck - ask him out. Unless of course that's against your moral boundaries. :wink: