I'm not clear if this is not a conjecture question, and even, the next question (should be looking for) - it all sounds very mechanistic. As does the more serious question, re comfort
Medorose, I am guessing you have relationship confusion. This is not a negative on my part to you - I am guessing you have a certain kind of personality, seems strong.
I'm not against you for number of parters, Medorose. Or for being lonely re sex. That can happen for many of us. The question is, re you or the rest of us -connection to other people to love if you can find that.
Meantime, be well, regard yourself well.
Like duh, I should mention contraceptives.