Im gonna throw my hat in the ring too that says the same thing.
Just having sex to enjoy the act of sex does not make you a bad person, or say that there is something wrong with you psychologically.
i find something wrong with the idea of denying your bodies needs in the name of a religion or societies taboo lines.. but thats just me.
then im gonna suggest passing them a valium. If hes REALLY kinky, just slide it in his ass..

He will sleep in your bed for a good long while!