Hi all again!

why are you preoccupying yourself with her plans? let her have her vacation. i didn't have that much control even when i was in summer camp from my parents.

it seems to me that you have a control and jealousy problem. it also seems to me that you are reasonable enough and realize this. perhaps your time would be better spent if you focused on yourself and tried to deal with that. read a self-help book, or talk to a specialist, occupy your time with a busy schedule- movie, friends, whatever... just do things. don't try to figure out for your wife whether she should return at this hour or that hour and what would be more comfortable and safer. SHE will figure it out. Let her breathe. She might not be so appreciative of your attention forever (for me it would be a total deal-breaker).

me too. (on the deal breaker part)

Thanks guys...... I agree.....

Just read this post to catch up on your second question...

And without reading any other answers, I have to say:

IT WOULD DRIVE ME ABSOLUTELY NUTS, IF MY HUSBAND KEPT TABS ON ME LIKE THAT...

Of course I would not say that I would call at a certain time, and then keep him waiting for hours, either...

But still.
My husband and I take vacations apart.
Mainly because he's got an unpredictable job schedule and cannot plan long term, or because I take a dive trip for exams when it might not be fun for him to be around and not see me all days.

I was gone to Egypt twice for 10 days without him and I don't think I ever called him at all in that time.
I went to Norway for two weeks and never even told him I was coming back a day earlier, which pissed him off a little, because it spoilt his birthday surprise for me.
I went to Spain for a week and even shared a room with another guy, and he knew about it and did not mind. He knew it was a purely financial arrangement, since we both thought it would be silly to pay two rooms instead of just one, and they were big rooms.
This year in September I will be in Portugal for 10 days, sharing a room with whoever I will be teamed up with (probably a girl, if there are any, but you never know).

Now, I have to say, I take all of this and the trust my husband has in me for granted.
But this is one of the reasons why I love him to death.
Maybe I should tell him more often!