I have mixed feelings. For the most part, I feel this way -
JPB wrote:Chai wrote:I'd just let it lie for now, but keep my eyes open.
Ditto.
There's no proof and there's too much chance for hard feelings that could take years to undo.
Another part of me wants you to talk straight with your brother - first about the first girlfriend. He still doesn't know how much she badmouthed him to you. and why that was part of your distancing yourself. (Or does he?)
And then, on this necklace bit, something along the lines of what Sozobe suggested.
But even as I say this, I wouldn't do it - if I did it - right away. You don't have proof. And the new type of necklaces may levitate now...
You don't know the relationship won't founder on its own.
I don't know how fragile your relationship with your brother is, how directly you two have spoken in the past. Even if I did try to talk about all this, I'd try to do it in the context of a related discussion with him about "life".
I do see how this could explode the relationship with your brother, and that that may be much more likely than a talk with him would work out.
Looking at it in the long run is tricky too. Don't speak, and years go by, and you'll have accumulated years of misunderstanding. Do speak, and you could have a major family rift.
In the meantime, while I strongly agree with 'wait and see', the immediate tricky part will be about not having them over again.... which I fully understand your not doing.