Re: Some Questions For People Who Are MARRIED
Gambler wrote:Thanks for taking the time to answer some of these questions. It is for a survey I am doing for class. Thanks.
How many years have you been married for?
11
How did your dating begin?
He moved into the housing co-op where I lived.
How did you know your relationship was becoming serious?
He went on a short trip and I felt like I couldn't stand to be without him for even a few days.
Do you think that a long dating period before marriage helps its strength?
Yes.
What was the most memorable moment of your wedding day?
Standing outside the chapel doors, waiting for them to open and to walk down the aisle -- everything had been so frenetic and suddenly I was there by myself. Took longer than I expected. Waved at curious bicyclists. Tried not to start laughing.
How important is it to date a variety of people?
Very.
What habits about your spouse annoy you and how do you resolve this?
We both naturally ease into roles of authority. He has a harder time keeping from being too authoritative than I do. We've talked about it a lot. We both recognize it (I slip sometimes, too). Usually, at this point, a look is enough if it happens.
What role does religion/faith play in your marriage?
None -- except that neither of us are religious and its therefore not a source of conflict.
If you have children, how did the arrival of your first baby, change your marriage?
Hugely. I also became a stay at home mom (after having been a career woman). Hmmm. Huge one, so will leave it at that and can elaborate.
What role does communication have in your marriage?
Enormous.
What methods of conflict resolution do you use? ( Who usually "wins" and why?)
We usually try to find a solution. We use the word "proactive" a lot. I'm not sure who usually "wins." I guess we try to stay away from that mindset at all, just try to solve the problem.