pc privacy in relationship,yes or no?

I agree with you, that's whacked.

If a guy's doing something significant, I believe it'll become apparent, key loggers or no.

If a guy isn't doing anything, that kind of paranoia will itself cause problems.

[quote="gunghomojo"]installed to catch me up to something.[/quote]

Did you know it beforehand?
One thing I would do now for sure, is get a second computer.

You are not a preschooler, who's mother has to sneak after him, to make sure he takes the direct path to kindergarten...
That's just degrading in my eyes!

And what's wrong with a bit of porn?
My husband seems to be getting stuff from his 'friends' online all the time.
And he does not seem the need to hide it, since he left the folder with the clips (pretty descriptive names) open the other day, while I was checking my email on his laptop.

You are not a preschooler, who's mother has to sneak after him, to make sure he takes the direct path to kindergarten...
That's just degrading in my eyes![/color][/quote]

yep

So when will you be pressing charges?

I won't be pressing charges Fishin. although I didn't know that was even a possibility . Please let me know more info on wether this can be done or not.

Whether it can be done or not would depend on the laws where you live but in very general terms, you can not legally install keylogging software and monitor someone's computer activities without providing them with advanced notice that the computer is being monitored.

If she told you previously that the software was installed, or it was on a computer that you weren't supposed to be using to begin with, and you continued to use the computer anyway and got caught well... then you are out of luck. If it was installed and monitored without your knowledge on a PC that you have normal/recurring access to then she may very well have crossed the line.

I came across something like what you mentioned about marriage builder website as well. I was researching marriage classes (sort of like a pre post marital counseling) online and came across this lady that sells CD and videos as part of marriage counseling. Apparently she's well-known too since she appeared on all the big TV shows like Oprah, Good morning America and so on. Well I emailed her about my issue (husband doesn't want us to exchange passwords for our emails) and she emailed me back about how sorry she feels for me cause my husband is living a DOUBLE LIFE!!!! It's really sad that somebody will use somebody's trouble to sell CDs...

isitok I'm not sure if I am understanding this the correct way. But that lady sounds like she is doing a lot of assuming about your husband, when she does not really know him.
And yep she is trying to make something out of your husbands issue just so she can make a buck. Fairly sad really.