Ok next time I talk to him, I'll ask... Especially since we really didn't set boundaries before... I'll let you know what he says.
ok so we talked and for now it is FWB... I didn't ask him right out but he was saying that he was talking to one of his friends and he was saying that his friend asked him if we were dating. He told them just cuz we were f**king that does not mean that we are dating... So I have my answer. Yay! I am just glad that I know... So I can stop obsessing and get over it. We shall see how far this goes... and now I have more time to see if I like him in a bf/gf way... and if he wants to go that way... I better go... He is coming over so I better go... I will let you know how it goes.
VIVA FIESTA!!!!
Princesspois--
Nice to know where you stand. Good luck.
I still don't know what to think... Either he is really romantic when he is intimate and just considers us FWB or he really likes me despite saying that he just wants to be FWB. He is also really intense... He would cradle my head and look into my eyes and actually cuddle. *gasp* He didn't actually spend the night and sleep over but he did go home at like 4am. I just don't know what to think and for now am going to treat it as FWB but see what developes from there...
Have you ever encountered someone like this guy, where they are really intense and seem really into you and seem like they would want more and yet they are strictly FWB and don't want anything more than sex?
No, but when I read the part about how you determined it was FWB I said hmm, not necessarily. Sounds like it could easily be a test. He mentions it -- sees your reaction. You give a "sure we're just FWB" reaction rather than looking disappointed, or whatever. He leaves it there.
What do YOU want, princesspois?
Grrrrr... that is what I was thinking!!!! It was so weird him saying it out of the blue and he mentioned it more than once.... Once on the phone and once when he came over... It did seem like he was testing the waters... I can go either way with him... Right now I really don't want a boyfriend but I wouldn't mind having a steady FWB in my life... but I don't want to push him away either... If I say that it is cool to be FWB and he really wants a relationship then that might make him think that he doesn't have a chance with me but on the other hand if I let him know that I want to be more than FWB and he really doesn't want to be then that could push him away as well. AAHHHHHH!!!! Am I making this more complicated than it is or am I right in being confused?
*sigh* okay so more confusing ****... While I was typing the above, I was talking to him on IM... and now his is telling me that he wants to laying off having sex and that he wants to find a gf... Is that a hint or not? God I am so confused and I think I might just drop him for a while until he figures out exactly what he wants...
[quote="stuh505"][quote="Bohne"]And back to the original question:
Yes, I'd definitely ask about HIM it![/quote]
What for?[/quote]
*ggrrrr* what kind of a sentence was that???
I would ask HIM about it!
What for?
The answer that princess is trying to get:
What does he want?
How does he see their relationship?
Who else will be able to answer THAT question?
Stop the games and ask him!
Are you two in 7th grade? You say you don't want a boyfriend(but you're obviously into this clown) but want a steady bang buddy. He wants to stop banging you to find a girl he can take out to dinner before banging so he can call her his "girlfriend."
Either he doesn't want you as a girlfriend, or he has zero balls. Might as well just ask him straight out which one it is.
I was sort of thinking the same thing....just how old are you?
This sounds like a high school girl and boy problem more than a woman and a man having a consentual relationship of any sort problem.
Bohne wrote:*ggrrrr* what kind of a sentence was that???
I would ask HIM about it!
What for?
The answer that princess is trying to get:
What does he want?
How does he see their relationship?
Who else will be able to answer THAT question?
Stop the games and ask him!
I'm saying that princesspoi does not need to know the answer. She already said that she was happy to just continue being friends with benefits. The guy said so, too. I see no reason to broach this series subject now, since they are both enjoying their time together already, and this might change things.
I am 23 and he is 28. I told my friends at work everything that happened this weekend and they think he is testing me, to see how I will react... I don't know and I think I am going to let it go for know... I have other guys to concentrate on right now and I don't feel like playing mind games...
What do ya'll think?
After my initial embarrassment of goofing up who our poster is, I didn't pay attention for a while.
Now that I have, phhhhhhhmffff.
First of all, me being old and all, I see this world of labels. People don't inhabit labels, at least usually.
Back in my youth, we were programmed to treasure ourselves as the temple (and so on....).
After all that, some of us had a lot of fun. It's not without data, or I don't think so, that Catholic Girls were said to be more fun, being more rebellious, and so on.
However wild I ever was, I had a clue of sex as being both delicious and connecting.
When I read about people hooking up now, I'm bemused. I'm thinking they lost it, roaming into mechanistic. Not that I'm against that a time or two. But not for real sexual connection.
Which is to say, to me, friends with bennies is a cold phrase, or that that it is more complex than assumed - even with the colder participants.
I think you should stand outside his bedroom window at midnight, holding a boombox over your head blasting Journey.
[quote="princesspois44"]What do ya'll think?[/quote]
I think we've already told you what we think!
