Quote:I know that lust is harmful because if you lust about other people directly you are basically having sex with them without them knowing it. I try to stay away from lusting after people specifically for this reason.
Danielle--
I think that your distrust of using friends and acquaintances as lust objects is based on a very sensible wariness of jumbling fantasy and reality.
When you say "basically having sex with them without them knowing it" you sound as though you believe your desires can create a situation in which the love object is unknowingly ravished.
This is like a suddenly-orphaned six year old deciding that her behavior caused a parent's death--or her parents' divorce or the tornado or any other disaster.