I agree with ehbeth, you need to confront your husband and not the
other woman. She is not part of your family and she has no commitments
towards you or anyone else in your family.
Frankly, I think you're in utter denial. You just don't want to realize that
it is your husband who is having an affair; that it is your husband who
hurts you; that it is your husband who spends weekends away from his
family.
Quote:I look at all this stuff he's doing and I know it's not the real him.
Well, it looks very real to me. He's not home, he's unfaithful, and he's
hurting you and your marriage. What's not real here? Right! Your
perception of this.