Finn wrote:
Quote:Society as a whole is healthier when charity if freely given, but accepted with a self-imposed price.
I see what you're saying, and I do agree. I've never thought requiring work of people in return for support that most people are able to earn themselves is wrong or in any way unreasonable. That's life for most of us. And I think in general that system or philosophy works better than the one that allows people to languish or wallow in their circumstances as they are without expectations or requirements that will serve to inspire them to get back on their feet and experience the satisfaction of making it on their own steam (if they physically can).
I guess what I was saying is that in most people, at least people who are honest, that discomfort is innate and usually automatically occurring, and so it serves no added purpose for those who are administering the "charity" to add their disdain into the mix. Because when they do, it usually doesn't result in any positive change, it usually only works to pull the person even lower in his or her own estimation so that s/he then has even further to struggle to climb out of whatever hole they're in (and that's true whether they've dug their own hole or were victims of circumstance).
Because of the jobs I've had and the populations I've worked with, I've just seen that disdain enacted by so many different people in so many different professions- towards children, toward pregnant women who were abused as children and are then treated as "lesser thans" for the rest of their lives-and that's even by the doctors and nurses who are helping them give birth. It's soul destroying and it's horrible to have to watch, and it doesn't benefit these people or our society in any way.
I hope these girls (who are being lined up to accept this charity) don't get subjected to the same thing. To treat them as numbers and give them this just so we won't have to spend any money on them later, and to let them know that by the way they're talked about and treated during this whole procedure would be a greater disservice than neglecting to give them the vaccine because their own families can't pay for it for them.
I'm glad you explained what you meant, because what you'd previously stated (or the way you stated it) painted an entirely different, and maybe misleading, picture.