Material girl said:
Quote:In my whole life Ive been on one date with one guy and id know him for about 10 years.

That's how I feel too, MG. I feel like I had one formal "date"- a highschool dance- or maybe two if I include the first time someone said, "Okay, this is a DATE- I'm taking you out and I'm paying"- and we ended up at McDonald's ( because we were both in the mood for a Big Mac).
My relationships always stemmed from friendships that just deepened into something else. So I've always kind of known the people for months and seen them in all sorts of situations so that I have an idea of who they are through and through, and vice versa so I know they have a realistic view of who I am and so have realistic expectations that I can fulfill.
I can't even really picture going out with someone a few times, only seeing them in a really contrived social situation and then trusting them with my emotions, feelings, and anything or everything else.
Roger said:
Quote:On the other hand, if you wait too long, the whole relationship can veer of in other directions. Anyway, I've had such experiences.
But don't you think if the chemistry is there- it's there- and won't turn into something else? It's not something you can create if it doesn't exist and it's not something you can deny if it does exist. At least that's been my experience. But again, I've never had a really typical dating experience- so who knows? But it sounds kind of scary to do it that way.