Used need help

Pifka wrote: ...she is clever and manipulative and a user.

That sums it up very well.

An interesting observation "That's a girl that is used to getting her own way"

Key word---Girl

Well I received a call from an unknown number and it was her. She called me to tell me that she is getting married and that she hates me and that I need to get a life and she hope that I never find true love like she has. She then hung up wth phone on me.

I know that it is over but I am miserable. I can't beleive the person that I love is someone totally different. I knew she was used to getting everything she wanted but I didn't think she would result in doing what she did. Sometimes I felt as I took her for granted. There were times she wanted to do things as a family that I didn't do. But if she truly loved me she wouldn't have cheated on me. What disgust me as that I let her do this to me.

Also, you guys are right. If she came back and said she wanted me back I don't know if I could say no. My head says no way but I don't know if I could say that.

Usedandlonely--



She's really have trouble giving up her hobby of kicking your ego all around the block on a daily basis, isn't she?

Do you know how to really hurt a sadist? Leave her completely alone with no one to torment.

May I suggest you change your user name now... to something more positive?

Everytime you look at your posts it will be a negative statement about yourself. It's early days and we would get used to another name quickly. You will probably stay around here, after you've healed, it's a friendly and interesting place.

x

Hi.

Wow, that girl is Mean.

All I can think of here is that maybe you miss having someone to show love to and to share sweet things with?

I'm guessing that even though, reading about her here, she sounds to us as Hell in a Body, there must have been times when she acted just perfect.
So sweet, and saying just the right things.
You saw something in her that was good - whether it was truly there or not.

What was it?

One thing I know for sure is that there is someone that needs love right now and who wants desperately to be able to give love to someone.

I bet you would jump in an instance to help if she were hurting.
You know you have that inside you to give.

So what could you do TODAY to show that same help to yourself? What could you do to make yourself feel better?

You certainly deserve it as much as a woman who is capable of causing so much pain!
You still want to show love to her even though she has hurt you so badly, and yet you are so hard on yourself.
That isn't fair.

We all make mistakes and sometimes we give our love to people who use it against us.
You are not a bad man because of it, and you don't deserve to be treated that way.

Thank you all for the kind words and advice. Its funny how everyone on the outside saw that I looked unhappy yet I kept telling myself I am in love. She was here on an a visa that was about to expire and I guess she was just looking for a green card. Funny thing is I wanted to marry her for the right reasons.

I guess this guy is going to help her. I feel sorry for him as he doesn't know anything about the laws and the commitment. Not my problem

You're going to be able to move beyond this and find happiness. Sadly, she is always going to have this inside of her, knowing that she acted the way she did and said the mean things she did. From what I'm gathering, can I assume that she is young? She doesn't sound very mature.

Yes she was young she was 23 and I was 30.

Hi everyone. Rough night as I saw her last night and I wanted to go beg for her back. I didn't though as I just smiled said hello and kept on walking. The funny thing is, is that I was on a date when she saw me. Through out the date I felt like I was cheating on her. The girl that I went out with has liked me for over 2 years so I thought it would be safe but no I can not get my mind of my ex. I also, might to stop talking to mutual friends as they keep on telling me she is getting married. Even though its for all the wrong reasons. She is getting married to get her green card. I was going to do it but I was going to to do it because I loved her and her son.

Another night of no sleep or I can't eat. Tyring to do it cold turkey. Love is like a drug and now that I am not receiving it from her, I am going through a tough withdrawl. Why can't i stop crying!!! I am not like this!!! I was a confident guy before and now I am not even half the man I used to be. Now I have lost more wight. I am scared that I can't get through this at times.

ual, You have all the information and suggestions necessary to make the right decision. You seem to be obsessed with a woman you know will only treat you with no respect and care, and use you every way she can. It is not "love" by any meaning of the word.

You need help from a mental heath provider.

UAL--

Good for you.

Good that you were on a date.

Good that you saw your siren and kept on walking as though you had wax in your ears.

Seeing a counselor might help organize your recovery. On-line chat is all very well, but none of us are professionals.

Meanwhile, keep walking, keep smiling.

UAL--

Good for you.

Good that you were on a date.

Good that you saw your siren and kept on walking as though you had wax in your ears.

Seeing a counselor might help organize your recovery. On-line chat is all very well, but none of us are professionals.

Meanwhile, keep walking, keep smiling.

[quote="usedandlonely"]You are all right!!! I need to stop and I have to stop as of right NOW!!!!!

I am a great person and can't let someone have that power over me!!![/quote]

I think you are right!
You are a great person, but don't let people take advantage of you like that any more.
You deserve better!