I have to get married..help!

Exactly. A woman might not only help you carry the burden, but also plan the house and help make a new home for you and your brother.

Thanks everybody, I made up my mind but still hesitant or a bit afraid

from the future maybe. What you said is definately right. What I have in

my mind is building a new house ( not that big, semi house probably ). I'll

start this year and my sister will help me in this I guess. She works as an

English teacher. I'm sure if I asked for some help, she would be there for

me. This means that I'll start a battle getting a peice of my grandfather

land. He has three sons, plus three daughters. The situation is like this,

two of my aunts are alife, and have nothing to do with the land because

their brothers bought their lots in the land. So, there will be my father

and my two uncles. The problem here is that my two uncles are both

incapable to speak or think. My father is better than them though his

hemiplegia.


One of the problems is my cousin, you don't know how evil he is, and

reactionary. He is like and old classic man.



I know this will take along time, but I'll do it then I'll build my little house

then I'll have the time for love


What do you think?

Navigator--

You have a plan--always a good start.

Even if working out your plan takes five years, the five years will pass anyway.

You can be 33 years old with no roof of your own--or 33 years old with your own family.

Hold your dominion.

You seem to have a lot on your mind, and be a very thoughtful person.

I don't know about your customs, but if they are not that different from ours any more, as you say, then you needn't worry all that much.
It's good to think about the future, but don't forget the present over it.

Good luck with building your house.

I've just read this and wish you all the best.

Good luck and may your dreams come true - of a house for your family and a woman you find wonderful to be with, at the time of you choose.

You have my best wishes with you.

KP

Thanks everybody for your good wishes. I've started the land issue, and

hope that I manage to do something by the next year.



I want to kill the old lady ( uncle's wife ), she is mean. My uncle doesn't

speak or know anything, acts like a baby. I think it's alzheimer. She says

that part of the land is her's. She controls her only son.


There must something there that will spoil everything. Nothing goes so

easy.

No, things aren'T always easy, but I always find, that things that I got through a lot of effort are much nicer once you got them, than things that just come to you.
You can really appreciate them afterwards!

How can you find true love?, a love that will last after marriage. How can you pick your couple? This is difficult, isn't it?!

They are many girls that are nice, and you have the chance to be with

one of them. But, what if one's heart is wrong? What if was it like sexual

thing only or a girl that care of you, but you lose it after months of

marriage.


It's another world to me. I see people here that are married, but to say

the truth they cheat on their wife and vise versa. Now, this happen. Some

of them have this routine and nothing spicy in their life. It's just like

machines work!

But, I'm sure they are many happy couples around at the same time.

Man, finding true love is so difficult. First you have to build a house, buy a wedding gift, plan the wedding, then find a wife, sew a wedding sack and bag her.

Navigator I don't think we can really offer you much advice considering that the cultural differences are so vastly different. At least I can't, but it's an interesting story you've told. Good luck

Navigator--

Perhaps one reason your mother is taking such an active interest in your love life is that until this time you've been a confirmed and somewhat shy bachelor.

I doubt that there are many Singles Bars in your neck of the woods, but I bet that there is some social life around the mosque or the school.

If you go where the girls are, the girls are just as interested in finding True Love as you are.

Hold your dominion.

Well, sure it's tough to find true love. But recognize that everyone has their own standards of that, and most married couples have their own standards of a happy marriage and those standards can even change over time. My husband and I probably lead a life that you would find exceptionally dull, but we love each other completely and will be celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary in May. I cannot imagine a life without him; marrying him was, by far, far, far, the best decision I have ever made.

But we probably don't seem very spicy to you. And that's okay, because it's our standard of a happy marriage that applies ... to us. So you may want to keep that a bit in mind, things may not be anywhere near as dire as you think.

Sure, there are people in bad marriages or dull marriages and that's troubling, but there are also people around you, I'm sure, who are in good marriages. You might want to just flat out ask them sometime -- assuming you are close to the couple -- How did you two meet? When did you know you were in love?

You'll get different answers, depending on the couple.

I am not in arranged marriage, but I have Indian friends who are. Their marriages range from a guy who constantly complains about his wife and never has a good thing to say about her, to a woman who calls her husband at least once a day, is always smiling when she does so, and will tell anyone who listens how great he is. I have friends who are married for 20 or more years and friends who have divorced twice. It is a mixed bag out there, and that's the operant word: mixed. It ain't all bad.

So look around, and find out what the happy couples around you are like, and what they value. And while you're at it, ask them if they know any nice young ladies who are also thinking of marriage. Your friends and family know you best and perhaps a friend of a friend, or someone's sister or cousin, will be perfect for you.

Good luck in your search. You are a good person and any woman would be lucky to call you her husband.

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As I can't live in a flat a way from my brother, and family. Buliding a

small house a must for me.


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You are right Noddy, I'll start hunting!



Thanks jespah, I'll try to ask around. Happy anniversary in advance.

Thank you.

Navigator--

How are you and your Matchmaking Mama getting along these days?

Hi Noddy, sorry for the long time. I've been struggling! it's more like

being afraid. How am I getting afraid or not certaing! She's cute, respect

life, well-educated, has a job, beautiful. I feel like she is mine.


Then, why I'm feeling like something missing! a bit afraid. Ok, not certain,

thinking of the future. Maybe, my life won't be that successful cause of

my situation.


I forgot how to love a girl since hospitals stories.

Your matchmaking mama sounds very efficient--but don't forget to do a bit of courting with flowers and candy and sweet words.

She sounds like a woman worthy of you.

Hold your dominion.