Feeling the Pressure..

If you don't want to get married, don't get married.

I know there is still a stigma attached to that, but it's more and more common and the alternative is so not worth it -- marrying someone you don't want to marry because you feel it's expected. No surer recipe for disaster.

I know a lot of women in their thirties who are enjoying the dating scene. It's a different scene, for sure, but it's still vibrant. In fact, sometimes I think I married and had kids too soon.

I wonder what heather @ badfun .com is?

Your idea that a guy would rather have a 25 year old than a 30 year old doesn't make sense. The guy in question would rather have YOU because YOU are the one he's in love with, not the 30 year old.
You're obsessing over something that you can do nothing about. When it happens, it'll happen.
You don't want to marry someone you're not in love with; that would certainly be worse than being single...and having a child with someone that you don't love isn't fair to anyone.

Be patient. You're ONLY 27! :wink:

Hey, Chai, I don't know what it is either, but I bet if you send an email you'll get get plenty of replies.

You have plenty of time! I just read about a 67 year old woman who gave birth. That gives you 40 more years!

I remember feeling blue when I was thirty and not married, remember crying my little heart out on my thirtieth birthday. That was in part that a romance was not working out, but also because of what I took as the import of the number 30 itself.

Heh, I've changed my tune now. As it was I met my husband when I was 34 and was with him for the next, oh, 25 years. But... when I was thirty, it was much, much more unusual - at least in big cities in the US - for women to be single at that age than it is now. And, still, I rarely minded it, perhaps because I had plenty of friends not settled into marriage. I think it's entirely better than marrying before you are a grownup - or your spouse is a grownup. My idea of grownup is not entirely related to age, but I'm generalizing here.

Forgive me, but from my current perspective as a woman in her sixties, I see 27 as barely old enough for such a step as marriage, unless you are comfortable with the idea of sequential marriages. So, one's viewpoint can change..

As for the fellows, I look at men in their twenties as young as well. Marrying a boy... well, it sure can work, but often doesn't over the years.
Not that most 25 year olds are immature, but lots can be. I see the twenties as a time of a lot of learning going on. (Yes, one can be a fool at fifty too.)

Heatherbfun--

Welcome to A2K.

You indicate that you are twenty-seven years old, unmarried and feeling incomplete.

Yes, your grandmother needed a man (and a wedding ring) to be a complete person. Yes, your 17 sibs and cousins are all marching two-by-two.

Why do you feel that being different is being wrong.

Stop. Take a deep breath. Consider: Perhaps being different is a sign that you're not inferior, but special.

Unhappy single women can panic and become very unhappy married women. You don't have to panic. Very few twenty-seven year old women are finished growing and developing. Give yourself a chance.

You're 27 years old, and you haven't learned yet to laugh when other people tell you what you ought to do?

<Eva wins the cake...>

Not for nuthin, but has anyone checked out badfun.com yet?

No... nemmee.

Who you calling nemmee?

meeee

Re: Feeling the Pressure..
Raises hand without hesitation.

Oh good, OCCOMBILL's here.

Hey, do me a favor and click on that heather badfun.com thing and see what happens.

I did. So?

Well?

Tell us what happened.

Chai, I see you were successful in your name-change endeavor and I would like to take the time to congratulate you.

I am so very proud of you.