rae napps wrote:This is like he chose to be with me, I'm no longer good enough so i'll look elsewhere - do you see what I mean.
You are not in competition with the women in those pictures, for a very simple reason: you are a woman, and they are PICTURES! That means that you have an insurmountable advantage over those women: you are real live human being, they are not.
Suppose, instead of looking at naked women, your husband looked at a photo of a meal in
Good Housekeeping and said "that looks delicious." Would you start questioning why your husband was looking at food in magazines when he had plenty of food in the refrigerator? Would you wonder if he preferred that meal in the photo to the meals he got at home? Would you start hiding all the copies of
Better Homes and Gardens so that he couldn't look at any more pictures of food, or make him promise never to look at someone else's food again?
Face it: men like to look at naked women. And their interest in naked women does not cease once they enter into the bonds of holy matrimony. But though the looking doesn't stop, the competition is over at that point. Of all the women that he has looked at, he chose to be with
you. You emerged victorious, and you deserve to bask in the glow of that victory. And any time you see him looking at another woman, clothed or otherwise, you can say to yourself "she's a
loser!" and be confident that you're right.
What's wrong with watching porn with him. My husband and I watch porn together. Try it.
