Trust myself. Exactly.
Deep breath.
Last night I got to spend a little time with Mister. I tried something I hadn't dared in quite a while (sad, I know, but this is being honest), which is just telling him what I was really feeling and letting myself be vulnerable. It is freaking time. Something that felt risky to me, rolled the dice anyways and did it.
It felt really good. Like a release. And funny, once I said it, it didn't even concern me so much what his reaction was (as in, it is the truth, so whatever happens I can deal with it). But, his response was nice. He opened up too.
Felt closer to him. Now it is out there, and I don't feel so alone carrying it either.
I know this all may sound silly, yet it is real easy to have walls and 'get away with it' in the short run (even a few years, but it all comes back at ya somehow).
In the past, seems I attracted and was attracted to the kinds of men who would put up with that, or were happy about it for their own reasons and whatnot....only once ever before, had that distance been truly bridged.
What gets me is how this entire time I have intellectually known that holding back and wearing a guard actually makes me vulnerable, it didn't make it any easier to convince myself to let it go. Needed some concrete direction in new ways to be. Sometimes I feel I did not learn a lot of these things when i 'should' have. but that is pointless to harp on here.
Anyhow, yall are right. It is about being real about oneself. And Noddy, you are right about the Control.
I've been trying to control as much as possible and head off problems at the go. Anything complicated with hurt feelings - my attitude has sort of been 'well, it's not worth it then' or 'f off, leave me alone'.
Real nice.
Holding dominion and feeling warm thinking of what i have been denying myself. Oy!