Making sense of porn to kids traumatised by it.

LOTS of people do a similar job as I do. Prolly, they, like me, do not much discuss it much outside the world of others doing the same work.

I, having a cyber community, occasionally ask stuff from the world outside.

I am NOT special or heroic....I am just more open to you guys. Quit with the praise!!!!!!!!

A MARSUPIAL take a LAGOMORPH down a peg or two?
You'd need a bigger brain for that........your ears are twice as big as your brain.

The thought that crossed my mind is to put it in terms of making healthy choices.

I guess kinda like this:

Some people make bad choices about what to put into their bodies: junk food, alcohol, cigarettes, etc. and it changes the way their body works. By the same token some people put unhealthy things in their brains and it changes the way they think about things.

Now you're just a kid and you haven't had a lot of control over the things you're given to eat or the things that you are given to see. Just like some kinds of food are good and other's not, some movies and pictures are fun and others are not, some movies are meant for kids and others are not. We call movies like the ones you were shown pornography and it isn't meant for kids just like alcohol and cigarettes aren't meant for kids.

In most families those things are considered to be really yukky. But some people like to drink and some people like to smoke and some people like to watch pornography because it makes them feel a certain way but I'm not really worried about them - how does it make you feel?

Does that make sense?

Well, what about a short abbreviated version of what Boom said..


something like

" Im sorry you were shown ( or you found ) that. It is something that is not ment for young people like you . How did it make you feel ? "

and let them be the ones to dictate where it goes from there?

. . .this is common work, and I am just keen to check for ideas re very specific issues.

I understand.

Can you give us a hypothetical question these kids might ask? Like, why does daddy like to watch it? Or why did he show it to me? Are those somewhat close?

I absolutly understand.

And I get it that certain kids are ok with simple answers, yet others want to know more about the sexual aspect of what they saw then their little minds can even comprehend.

Not to mention, YOUR answer has to , as you said, dispell their fear of the adults in thier lives.

I dont know what I would suggest.

These children should never, ever be put in this situation.

Shame on the adults in thier lives.

Rollercoasters.

At first it seems like a death defying feat to go down the slide at the park.
soon that feels pretty tame and you want to go on the "Mad mouse" at the Royal Adelaide Show pretty soon it feels ordinary to do that and some of your friends dare you to go on the tower of terror at Dreamworld. they say betcha wont betcha cant............................. etc etc.

Some adults are like that with sex stuff.

But the real story is there are all these people like inspectors and mechanics, and engineers to keep rollercoasters safe for everyone to use. With sex stuff there arn't any of those kind of people and we have to know inside our heads when its not safe and good for us personally.

Some of the bigger kids and/or grown ups go on the (insert name of huge big enormouse rollercoaster) and thats ok for them as long as they dont make you go on it cause your only up to going down the slide at the park.



dlowan, maybe there are ideas you can use from the above.

dlowan wrote:

. . .this is common work, and I am just keen to check for ideas re very specific issues.

I figgered you wouldn't really want the accolades, dlowan, and I should have kept quiet -- and I certainly don't want to take your thread off track (just pretend this post isn't here!). I really meant it though, and I have a thing about not holding back on telling people positive things...sorry if it was out of place!




[size=8]I'm still sending electronic hug vibes out, though, you can't stop me... [/size]

It might be helpful to explain that sex is just a small part of adulthood, and not everyone enjoys watching those things, and they certainly have a choice when they become adults whether they want to watch these things.

I have a hard time coming up with any answers to "why did he show it to me" that aren't negative towards the adult. I'll think on it.