hephzibah wrote:I guess I'm just wanting to know here, since my experience in the department of "long term relationships" is somewhat limited... do guys get bored having sex with the same person for an extended amount of time? Not that it means they would move on necessarily, but is the boredom what maybe inspires the fantasy? Aren't there things people can do to spice up their relationship or bring back that passion they once had?
If some do get bored well... ok, but I wonder what the difference really is between the regular girlfriend/wife and the one nighter from the bar. I mean, excuse my frankness here please, but isn't sex sex, no matter who you do it with? There's only so many different things you can do, right? So maybe then just the fact that it's a different person is the exciting factor maybe? *shrugs* Heck... I don't know.
Sex will be different with every person you're intimate with - even with a
longterm partner you'll experience sex differently at times. It is up to
BOTH partners to make it more interesting and enjoyous.
Frankly, I've heard of more women getting bored with their husbands
same-old-same-old routine than the other way around. Unless the wife
is withholding sex and has let herself go physically, most men like to
engange into sexual activities with their spouses.
So, if the guy is getting bored in bed with his wife, chances are,
he is the one who is lacking fantasy and imagination to spice up the
love life.
I surprised myself.
hephzibah , seems like we are in a similar place. I seem to be asking myself a lot of the same questions you have posted.