windymindy wrote:We are meeting in the middle and will try to have sex twice a month for now. Later we may get to once a week. It is a power thing for me. I sometimes feel that if I give in, he wins and gets what he wants.
Sorry, but to me it does not sound like you are meeting in the middle.
It sounds like he is giving in all the time.
According to your theory that now makes you the winner.
If you want to meet in the middle, why don't you give a little, too?
Why does he have to stay up late to be with you, and you cannot get up earlier to be with him.
Why can't he have his hot dinner BEFORE he (normally) goes to bed?
If you don't like your butt grabbed, that is one thing, but believe him, when he says he likes your butt. In my experience, most men really don't go for skinny women.
windymindy wrote:We are also going to try to have some alone time once a week, even if it is just watching tv for an hour.
That I think is a start at least.
But try and do things that give you an opportunity to talk about later.
No point to stare into the TV together for an hour, and then separate and go your own ways again.
I REALLY hope you can make this work, but try and think less ME and more WE.