smorgsy, our delectable hostess, wrote-
Quote:Ellpus: You obviously require more 'open' support from me... So here you have it: In all our conversations over the past two years (nearly three) I have a strong affectionate bond with you, you are kind and compassionate, witty and charming, and a true friend.
The qualities of kindness, compassion and charm can only properly be quantified under pressure and under a faint pressure they have been shown to be in short supply. It seems they only show when things are going along in the manner approved of and soon disappear otherwise.
I think nearly everyone is kind and compassionate and charming with the small talk in operation. During that social dance one sees at weddings, when people who hardly know each other gather together etc, kindness, compassion and charm are put forth as a form of polite strategy which garuantees they part later still not knowing each other.
We have discovered just how thin this veneer is in Ellpus's case. Read his comments. The conclusion is self evident- for him to maintain his kindness, compassion and charm it is absolutely necessary not to ruffle his feathers even slightly. Any truth that doesn't have his approval is thus rendered off limits and when one does the effect is quite alarming and best known about in advance of any deeper arrangements. Had he been subjected to the abuse I have been on wande's thread, which timber will verify, one assumes he would have had an apoplectic rage.
So mind how you go. And he has threatened violence.