Cheer me up folks!!

Why not try talking it through with some of the members here on A2k.

The women here are a great bunch, who always come up with some good ideas/advice, and you can make some good "virtual" friends in the process.

Either that, or go and buy a gigantic box of Belgian handmade chocolates and watch an old film whilst scoffing the lot.

A Buddhist saying: Winter never fails to turn to spring!

Last time I was feeling crappy, I took a soak in my jacuzzi. Wait .... I don't have a jacuzzi, so where did all those bubbles come from ????

Thanks guys!!

I laughed at the jacuzzi joke, that was funny.

I've had some chocolates aready...........they did help too.

I go out and set homeless people on fire. Or if I'm not as ambitious, visit pet stores and slip the puppies chocolate.

You know some things just all seem to come at once.

I don't know. I try to work this sorry life out and just when I think I've got it figured something upsets my equilibrium. It spins my whole being and person into question.

want to talk about it?

I have a whole list of things lately that seem to be occuring and disrupting my happiness. I feel like I can't do anything right. Do any of you feel like that?

Josey, there is now a queue of concerned A2K women beating a path to this thread.

First they will pump you for information, then they will offer you great advice.
Several male members may appear from time to time, to be silly (not me, I'm always serious and caring), but in the end you will be assimilated into the A2K family, and be happy forever.

You all sound really nice people who want to help. I just don't think you've got all day.

Well here goes here's one thing. My BF has a very stressful job and I try hard to help, but just latley I can do nothing right.........well that's how it feels anyway.

EVERYONE feels like that!

We have all had our moments on here...

Do share (if you can) we are good listeners!

xxx

I'm afraid some of us HAVE got all day!

Not me though...

I spend most of my time partying, having sex and taking drugs! As for the rest - well...

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You seem to want to share...so do it already.

By the way, some of us here are rather direct. Don't take it as rude. We just mean what we say and say what we mean and expect directness from others as well. And welcome!

Sometimes when I look around me everyone else looks/feels so much stronger or more confident compared to me. I generally feel like some either shy or unsociable being. I've always been like it from a young age.

Then when something is said I can't help but take it personally or withdraw back in my shell. What's so frustrating is it's when I'm really trying my best and so I just feel exasperated or depressed.

ok, so we've pulled two things out of you: Your fighting with your boyfriend and you feel insecure about yourself.

You allow your boyfriend to use you as a doormat when he comes home grumpy from work. You constantly compare yourself to others and always come up short. Both of these issues are one and the same. Self esteem.

There is no one who can build up your self esteem or change the way you look at yourself except for you.

If you feel so depressed, why not seek a professional?

Aah the yester-years. I was a VERY shy young lass (stop that laughing Ellpus!) who was painfully introverted and insecure as a teen. I felt quite like you described above. I am an extremely different person now. I have less insecurities simply because I have learned that there will always be other people who are smarter, richer, funnier, quicker, better, whatever ... but so what? They can be all that and I am fine with me, with what I am. It's about learning to love yourself. Others are not better than you because they seem to know how to do the social thing, be popular, chat away about anything and everything. Don't be worrying that the things you say are not up to par. Most of what you hear from others are mostly opinions, crap, bullshitting, and sometimes interspersed are real factual things. It's like being completely petrified of public speaking. I would vomit if I had to get up in a room full of people and do a presentation, but I can stick my 2cents in a smaller environment and make my voice heard if I want to. It's all about confidence. It takes a while for confidence to sneak up on you, and in the meantime or the early years it's so painful trying to get to that point.

You sound like a sensitive soul...

We all (most of us) have a tendancy to take remarks personally and perhaps over-examine them.

You would have to have a big ego not to.

Has something happened recently to increase your feelings of isolation?


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Well usually I cope fine, but sometimes cracks will appear. I hope just like everyone does from time to time. I'm not quite sure whether I'm good at coping with these things when they do though.
I don't know of BF uses me like a doormat but I sure feel a little down lately.

A relative is dying at moment.