Dinner or coffee for 1st date???

I think something that involves walking is good. Walk after the coffee/drink if things are going well. Walking helps to take some pressure off chatting. There are other things to talk about as Beth notes, but you still talk of yourselves. Plus, walking makes most people feel relaxed and energized (unless it 90 degrees outside).

Coffee.

Or my favorite, ICE CREAM.

But that's not the point. I like the coffee idea because like someone mentioned before me, coffee isn't necessarily a short thing. I'ts a lot more felxible in that you can sit in a coffee house for hours sippin' some java and if there's some good conversation going on then you just keep your seat right there. If nothing is happening and that old awkwardness we all have grown to love comes around, then one person can easily say they've got to get going.

Restaurant and dinner on the other hand is a whole different ballgame. The time constraints seem to be the main problem, that and the worry of spending more money on a first date. But it's the worst because you know that when the check comes you're leaving, and not before the check comes....unless something goes terribly wrong, then you may have to ask for that check prematurely, but let's hope we don't get i n a situation like that.



Final note for me, nature and outdoor activities are my favorites, nice weather, breathing the FREE air, looking at things like mountains or oceans, or anything outdoors for that matter tends to be refreshing, and if nothing else is good for some conversation.

Remember, it's not what you say, it's how the people remember feeling after some of the things you've said.

They may not remember the particular joke, but they'll remember smiling ear to ear, know what I"m saying?


Alright that's all for me.

And if you read all of my babble, you have more patience than I would have

Good babble, makes sense.

I dunno Slappy. I was never that fussy about where I went to dinner, but Domino's is probably a bit of a stretch!

I never liked to go to the movies, theatre, concerts, on a 1st or 2nd date. How the hell do you get to know a person when you are concentrating on the entertainment?

I know I personally would rather hear someone invite me to coffee then to dinner.

Dinner sounds so... final.
It feels as if there is no room for anything else in the evening and then I have to consider being in a formal state of mind, wich at the end of the day, is the last thing I want to do with someone.

Coffee tells me that this person only wants to sit still for a minute, then we can be off to do something fun.
Coffee doesnt come with an 'end' like dinner seems to..






have you taken her out yet ??

Coffee or dinner?
Thanks Everyone,
The girl is a new colleague of mine. We are working in two different sectors of the firm. I have seen her twice for work puposes only. Very formally. She sounded shy. She's is now away for a couple of weeks. I had to postpone the Event!
Comments are welcomed in the light of the new info.
Cheers
Tom

Tell her that both of you can quit your jobs and run off to a remote cave in the Alps and live happily ever after.



Although I tried it, and got a nice, strong slap to the face.

Hello,
I'm new to a2k and posted a topic that some repliers have replied to. Got great advice. I'm finding this to be very useful.
I'm out of a divorce and ready to start dating again. I agree that coffee is a nice first date. This way you can get to know each other and what you each enjoy. Maybe you'll discover that you both enjoy something in common that can tie into the next date. A coffee date seems like less pressure than dinner and a bit less formal and relaxing.

I saw the other thread, can't remember if I replied. Anyway, I agreed with the general tenor. Welcome to a2k, Marty, and have a good time here.
Coffee -- two major articles today in the NYTimes, one that it saves your health, the other that it can spark a first heart attack.


Heart attack... another name for a first date?

That's precisely the concept.

Focus on something other than the other person for the first coupla dates.

You can still talk a bit before and after the entertainment (summer's good - lots of free concerts and outdoor theatre), get a sense of whether your pheremones jive, but no stress on making conversation (and little danger of saying too much stupid to start off with).

So what did you Decide??