Rex

Rex,

I think he should dump you. But I still hope you're ok....

He won't dump me but I do need to direct my emotions in the right place so this does not ever have a chance of happening again.

Islands don't want to be in charge of destiny. You do.

Rex, how did an island manage to get into a five-year (so far) relationship?

Someone built a dock?

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How'd you get into your current relationship?

Destiny has a way of just happening no matter how far we run from it.

Five years of friendship which somehow morphed into a five-year relationship. That's a nice solid base.

Did you realize the friendship was turning into a relationship?

Who led in the change from friendship to relationship?

We often create our own destiny, Rex.

I don't like to play armchair therapist, but I'm wondering if you subconciously try to mess things up by cheating.

Your partner was supposed to get mad at you for it and maybe even leave. He hasn't done that, he's been kind and understanding...which only contributes to your guilt (self-loathing).

So, you've done a good job of convincing yourself you don't deserve to be loved....but you haven't been able to convince him yet.

You're feeling resentful and angry at him now, because he's not the playing his part (according to the script you have in your head). He still thinks you're worth loving.

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Destiny has a way of just happening no matter how far we run from it.

The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves that we are underlings.
Men at some times are masters of their fate.

You can't control your partner. You could please him by understanding yourself--and forgiving yourself.

Destiny is something that happens when we are busy with other things.

Couple's therapy possible?

Because if there haven't been any recriminations from your partner, he may have his own repressed issues.

I think it could really help both of you. And, Rex, I was thinking what Noddy said. You seem to be a bit too in touch with your rage. Sounds cliche, but so many people are really put in touch with themselves with some guided discussion by a professional listener.

Interested in Beth's questions. You did something right.

Noddy--

You have quite a way with words.