Regarding Kitkat_bar

J_B, ... Don't you agree as members of a forum it is also our responsibility to keep the environment as cordial as we can. Again, it is only my opinion and was one of the reasons why I was enjoying this place for a long time - cordial environment. A2K has a bunch of mature posters who give sound advice to people, including you J_B. When we take so much from a place for free, we are also responsible to give something back in return, IMO. There will be immature posters but most of us on this forum are quite matured with respect to age and with respect to judgement and advices and are capable of shrugging it off without getting into incordialities.

So she keeps on talking about the same thing. She ignores the advices. She comes to hear herself talk. She goes round and round in circles.

But what are we doing? Slamming her and making fun. In my opinion this behaviour in our part only brings us down. If you do not feel worthwhile contributing to her thread, it would be better to ignore those threads in my opinion.

(Running to save myself from being stoned :wink: )

I recall a different individual who shows up every so often with the same story line - I have a new boyfriend, I got drunk and slept with him, he hasn't called me in twenty minutes, I've sent him 42 text messages and he's ignoring me, what should I do? The story never changes but over time the advice has become more cynical. She keeps coming back and ignores anything we say.

I don't see KK as being flamed as much as pointing out her immaturity by trying to get down to her level of communication.

for instance, the "argument" between blacksmith and myself? Might be seen as a joke, as flaming, or as I meant it, showing her how her own arguments with her spouse would sound if she was listening to herself.

BTW, when I directly asked her what it was that was so "heavy" that she and her spouse "went through" together, her first response was the usual pathetic "oh you wouldn't understand", then asking me my opinion on whether to do it there, or start a new thread. I told her that was her call, and that's the last I've heard. I'm hoping (hope springs eternal) that when she's actually writing it down, she might see that whatever it was is certainly not worth what she has now....

btw, on one of her other threads (there's so many), I recently posted a more serious message, you're welcome to read.

If this young woman was expecting people to perpetually hold her hand and say "there, there" she isn't much in touch with reality.

Sometimes it gets to the point where you need to point out how foolish they are, and make them look at themselves.

Hey, a few times in my life, I've had good friends and complete strangers say something to me, that stopped me in my tracks and really made me look at MY part in the problem. They were painful wake up calls, but in the end, put things back in prespective.

If kitt_katt felt so insulted, she wouldn't keep coming back. It's all part of the drama of her life.

LoveMyFamily wrote:

So she keeps on talking about the same thing. She ignores the advices. She comes to hear herself talk. She goes round and round in circles.

But what are we doing? Slamming her and making fun. In my opinion this behaviour in our part only brings us down. If you do not feel worthwhile contributing to her thread, it would be better to ignore those threads in my opinion.

(Running to save myself from being stoned :wink: )

It is easy for you to say with no skin in the game. You haven't made any investment in your time trying to help her only to be ignored and then having to listen to her continue to play the victim.