I'm so sorry that Barney didn't ever return, Roger, but so pleased that Spooky did - & settled right back into his life at your place! That was a time of incredible upheaval in their lives (&
yours!) and I certainly hope that you aren't feeling guilty or "to blame" for what happened. There are things we can't help or avoid & one of them, for you, was the necessity of a 3 week hospitalization. But I can well imagine your distress at returning home from hospital to the situation as you found it.
As for Barney, I really hope he's found a wonderful new life (the ingrate! :wink: ) with a doting new owner.
You know, keeping three (even two!) cats happy & healthy is a big job for one person. When I first moved to this new house (after a relationship breakdown) I brought our three with me. It was one helluva task, especially as illness struck, I can tell you. You've got to be really committed to do the job properly, don't you?