Hi hodgepodge, and welcome!
I see what you're saying, and agree about give-and-take, solving problems et al. But this specific situation still bothers me:
Quote:Like my example of the boyfriend asking his girlfriend not to hang out with guy friends. The boyfriend should obviously take the girlfriend out and show her a better time than she would have if she were hanging out with guy friends. This way, there is no resentment in the heart of the girlfriend.
Um, no. Really no. I have one best friend... does that mean I don't "need" any other friends? Hardly. I have a variety of friends for a variety of reasons, and like that variety. My best friend can be the most amazing, wonderful, fulfilling, whatever person, but I'd still be pissed if she told me I could only see her. This kind of stuff could (and may well) totally lead to resentment in the heart of the girlfriend.
How 'bout this theory of relationships -- always try to distill issues to their core components. "You can't hang out with guys, even on a platonic basis" has more basic components, such as "I don't trust you". THAT's what needs to be resolved.