What? You mean this?
Chai Tea wrote:
As simple as it sounds, the only way to stop is to acknowledge you want to do something.....then, don't do it.
Easier said than done. I listened. And now I'm bleeding. I've been trying the "simply don't do it" method for years. Always ends in me bloodying myself up. Got anything else?
I never said it was easy. Ultimately that is the way. Snapping rubber bands, bad tasting stuff don't touch the root of the problem.
You'll engage in the behavior regardless of what you do to "punish" yourself for the behavior.
Everytime you engage in the behavior, you are physcially creating a stronger bond in your brain to keep it up. By not engaging in the behavior, although horrible, chips away at that bond. Eventually, the bond weakens enough to be broken.
Each time you become aware you are engaging in the finger biting, or want to, you need to tell yourself that for this ONE time you won't do it.
After you do that a few times in a row....your brain get really pissed off and starts DEMANDING you bite your fingers. If you resist one more time your are successful.
Your brain will stay pissed for awhile, then, slowly give up. Too slowly I'm afraid.
How do you think I felt when my brain kept telling me to "touch the corner of the coffee table"
"ok, touch the corner of the coffee table again...you didn't do it exactly right"
"no......do it again."
That would go one until I had to "add up that column of numbers", "maybe that total wasn't right, add it again"
Lots of people who engage in OC behaviors manage to hide it very well, you wouldn't have known it about me unless you watched me a long time. When my husband noticed I always had the calculator in my hand, he asked me about it.
My response was "It comforts me"
Well.....it did. It comforted me in that I didn't have to endue the pain of my brain telling me to do something. I just did it. Fortunatley, the drug I started taking for panic attacks also address that. It quieted the brain. It was finally like..."I don't give a damn if you do it or not"
Biting your fingers in the same way is a comfort to you....because you don't have to deal with the discomfort of NOT biting them. It literally is a little addiction.
Does that make sense? It's a matter of chemical imbalance, which we create ourselves. Some are just worse than others.
Seriously, does anyone else deal with this? I know I'm not alone. I used to think if I told anyone, I'd be admitting to be crazy.