Phoenix32890 wrote:You are not a murderer, and you did not cause your friend to die. You were dumb kids, who took the wrong path, period. You were stronger than your friend, and luckily, were able to overcome your problem.You need to be strong now, and get through this. You have a long, happy life ahead of you. Be confident of that.
This sums it up the best. Argh, there is something I learned many years ago, and that is that in this life, you are truly only responsible for your own actions. Period. You can't force anyone to do anything they don't wish, even at gunpoint.
Her parents blame you because they failed in their job and are taking that frustration out on the most convenient target. Read the following very slowly, and repeat again if you need to:
You . . . . are . . . . not. . . . . to . . . . . blame.
You both made poor choices, you both had equal opportunity to stop. You took the opportunity, your friend didn't. That was her choice, not yours to make.
I applaud you for getting clean, and wish nothing at all but the best for your future. You're far stronger than you give yourself credit for.