Husband's porn activity...am I a prude?

Last night...I went for a jog. I didn't want to be home when he got home. I didn't want to be around him. This sounds crazy..but it's true. This is not healthy. I understand that I need to change my point of view. I need to open up and be cool with porn surfing. But how?

Setanta wrote:

Let's just hope The Girl don't see this . . .

"The Girl"? That sounds bad.......

Should I gear up and arm myself?

This morning I looked at his history and there were around 100 sited he went to last night while I was sleeping.

Only three or four times a week, is that what you mean?


You better check for a pulse . . .

The consensus is that it's ok for men to view porn. How about if the tables were turned and I (the wife) were on the computer late at night and my husband looks over my shoulder and sees naked men? I am not looking for an argument with you, but what are your thoughts?

Porn can be an end in itself but can also lead to terrible situations. There are many cases of men having a porn session then going out to rape or kill.

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The consensus is that it's ok for men to view porn. How about if the tables were turned and I (the wife) were on the computer late at night and my husband looks over my shoulder and sees naked men? I am not looking for an argument with you, but what are your thoughts?

The attitude of your man needs to be very carefully assessed . I work in a prison and see details of many serious sex crimes - 99.9% start with involvement with porn. Sure, anything can be misused but it is a big gamble - and you will have this lifelong. Porn involvement never stops - it grows and grows.

No no no no no no no no no...uh, did I say no?

Porn does NOT lead to rape! How many times do I have to say this? Are people still this ignorant about rape in this country? It's no wonder so many women don't come forward or press charges against their rapist. No one even understands what rape is about!

The men to "have a porn session" and then go out and rape are sick, twisted people that would kill with or without the porn. It doesn't cause the rape. It may be used as an accessory, just like a pair or silk panties worn by the rapist for some bizarre excitment.

Questioner, I think we've been down this road before and this argument. I think it's as silly as saying video games cause otherwise normal kids to act out and shoot up their school. Normal kids don't shoot up their school and normal men don't rape women.

Bella Dea wrote:

Questioner, I think we've been down this road before and this argument. I think it's as silly as saying video games cause otherwise normal kids to act out and shoot up their school. Normal kids don't shoot up their school and normal men don't rape women.

Yes, normal men don't. Normal men also don't get off looking at the type of porn I mentioned above. Yet we're not speaking of the effects of Porn on normal men.

However, you're correct, we've been down this road before and I suppose this isn't the place for it.

Questioner wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:

Questioner, I think we've been down this road before and this argument. I think it's as silly as saying video games cause otherwise normal kids to act out and shoot up their school. Normal kids don't shoot up their school and normal men don't rape women.

Yes, normal men don't. Normal men also don't get off looking at the type of porn I mentioned above. Yet we're not speaking of the effects of Porn on normal men.

However, you're correct, we've been down this road before and I suppose this isn't the place for it.

But all these women are talking about normal porn, not snuff films or other violent, non-acceptable behavior (ie, rape movies). And besides, if someone is watching a film with a woman being tortured and gets off on it, they are pretty **** up in the head and wouldn't need porn to motivate them.

Bella Dea wrote:

Questioner wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:

Questioner, I think we've been down this road before and this argument. I think it's as silly as saying video games cause otherwise normal kids to act out and shoot up their school. Normal kids don't shoot up their school and normal men don't rape women.

Yes, normal men don't. Normal men also don't get off looking at the type of porn I mentioned above. Yet we're not speaking of the effects of Porn on normal men.

However, you're correct, we've been down this road before and I suppose this isn't the place for it.

But all these women are talking about normal porn, not snuff films or other violent, non-acceptable behavior (ie, rape movies). And besides, if someone is watching a film with a woman being tortured and gets off on it, they are pretty **** up in the head and wouldn't need porn to motivate them.

I'll be happy to debate this with you again Bella, perhaps in a different thread if you'd like?

whiteviolet wrote:

Porn can be an end in itself but can also lead to terrible situations. There are many cases of men having a porn session then going out to rape or kill.

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No no no no no no no no no...uh, did I say no?

Porn does NOT lead to rape! How many times do I have to say this? Are people still this ignorant about rape in this country? It's no wonder so many women don't come forward or press charges against their rapist. No one even understands what rape is about!

The men to "have a porn session" and then go out and rape are sick, twisted people that would kill with or without the porn. It doesn't cause the rape. It may be used as an accessory, just like a pair or silk panties worn by the rapist for some bizarre excitment.

I feel the same way, Bella.
Your country and mine.