I am extremely worried!

And more than that, as DrewDad said, if he gets love and support while he's being a total jerk, he'll just keep being a total jerk. If he figures out that love and support dries up when he acts like that, maybe he'll finally get his act together. That, if it happens, would be better for everyone.

Well the bad news that I heard was that he tried to commit suicide, that is why I am so worried

Then he definately needs more help than you are qualified to provide, Issy. If he attempted suicide then hopefully he sent out enough alarms to people who can help send him in the right direction.

That;s the thing, sometimes I really wonder about his family, he could be lying on the floor dying and some of them would prolly just leave him there if they were drunk enough

It worries me alot, they are not a happy family, ever... they are always screaming and fighting.... I lived with them for a year and I almost snapped

If someone really is bound and determined to do themselves in, there is not much that you can do, short of having them committed.

I think that the farther that you stay away from him, the better that it will be for you. You are not responsible for his life.

If he attempted suicide, and his sister told you, someone in the family is at least somewhat aware and interested in what is happening to him.

You can be worried, and concerned, but sometimes you have to take care of yourself first.

As hamburger often says "one hand for yourself and one hand for the ship". If you don't take care of yourself - you're no good to anyone.

You've proven many times that you are a nice, caring person, Issy. Don't forget to be nice to yourself in this instance.

I know and thank you guys again, I really appreciate it, I can't talk to my family about it and my friends will just tell me to call him

You guys have helped so much!

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Uh Uh No No.

I was in that spot once. Stand your ground. Do not get involved.

What he did was completely about him, and absolutely nothing about you. What he continues to choose is about him. You can't help, so relax. You can let it go.

Are you angry at all? He is still focused on himself; not on how other people feel. Are you hurt?

My ex took that same road - drugs, bad choices, self destruction. Yeah, it continued after I cut ties. The sister relayed info to me. Why? Because she wanted me to help. I said no. What she was really asking for was for me to help HER. Maybe you are prepared to help the sister if you are close, but you do not need to see him to do that. And it probably would not be good for you - you'd have access to all the latest dramas he is creating.

It's true that some of us are born into **** situations. That doesn't get us off the hook in life; and it doesn't grant us special priveledges. The best thing you can do for him is to be hard right now. He may never learn, but you can rest knowing you care and you did what was right.

Think about how you would act if this ex were a steady sort of guy who never had acted like this. If he were having a hard time, he would not expect or want the ex running to his side. Grant your actual ex this same dignity.

crap, my message was waaay too late!

no it wasn't, every little bit helps!!

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