Thanks. Oh how I wish it wasn't so. I am an entertainer and do karaoke shows.
I have a good friend who is a psychology major from Carolina and
a Bob Jones University graduate who his own very successful church, Baptist of course. Needless to say many of our conversations were very interesting.
The last time I was making a real concerted effort to be practicing my faith in the straight ahead conventional way I was attending his church regularly and really trying to connect and be involved. I am a trained singer and when I told him I was going to join the choir he replied that people in service roles in the church have to be above reproach in their behavior and because I made a living in places that served alcohol i.e. bars and nightclubs, I couldn't be allowed to join the choir. I asked him what about people who work in convinience stores and grocery stores but that got glossed over. He also made the automatic assumption that I would want to introduce "Christian Rock" into the services, and apparently that was a no no for him as well.
It was an incredibly hurtful rebuff and made me feel that even among "Christians" it doesn't matter if you're sincere, only if you conform to a certain narrow view which in my opinion is an EXTREMELY Un-Christ like attitude.
I believe in God and Christ to this day, but I no longer have a clear vision of how the whole operation works, and find that I'm not willing to make myself vulnerable to any further derision or judgement by these people. I believe God will judge me soon enough.
This guy is still my friend, but will not broach the subject of how badly he hurt my feelings and how that watershed moment began leading me away from the church once again without becoming angry and defensive.
Having said that, it ultimately is up to me to maintain my relationship with God, so if I'm not there's no one to blame but myself, but these pedantic Christians aren't helpful, that's for sure.