From a woman's perspective:
1. why dont you like talking on the phone? - Guys function differently than women do and they tend to be much more to the point. Once that point has been made, they prefer to end that conversation.
2.
should i be upset if you tell me you cant make an arrangment and dont say sorry? - No. Why would you? A man shoudn't have to apologize for having a life outside of you. If he always ditches you for something else or breaks plans with you all the time, I'd start to get pissed.
3.
why do you never pay compliments. - Not one guy I've dated has not give me compliments. When you've been into a relationship for a long time, I think that the compliments dwindle down only because security in the relationship has settled in and we don't need constant reminders that we are beautiful. But they should never end. We all want to hear we are wonderful people.
4.
why do you never express much concern when we are ill. - I think that the guys who don't express concern are just not babying us. Do you want someone to carry you around on a pillow when you are sick? Women tend more towards nurture, so we baby men when they get sick and expect it in return. My husband cares very much when I am ill. He doesn't want to see me sick.
5.
why do you forget anniversarys etc. -
I am the one who always forgets, not the other way around. Anniversaries don't have to and shouldn't be celebrated just once a year. I like to celebrate my love for my husband every day. We don't do anything big on our anniversary and we rarely get each other anything other than maybe a card.
6.
why do you appear not to love us. - Frightening statement. Why would you say this? Is it that he is treating you poorly? Is he doing things that he thinks shows you he loves you but you just can't see those things as acts of love?
7.
why do you always want to get dressed after sex and do something else. - Again, frightening statement. Sometimes, you just want to get up and go watch some tv but it should never be "ok, done. See ya."
8.
why do you not phone us as much as we phone you. - Refer to #1. Also, I think that it comes down to the emotional security issues so many women have; the ones who think that quantity of converstations count. The ones who practically die if he doesn't call you all day. Men tend to put quality before quantity when it comes to conversation.
9.
should i be offended if i arrange to go out to the cinema with you and you arrange to meet your mates in the pub about an hour after the film finishes. -No. Refer to #2.
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Course those are just my opinions and experiences. Men, you have much more insight than me on these.
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