Are there things you will never tell your spouse?

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I mean. things that will never EVER cross your lips?
Secrets that you wont even admit to yourself. ?

Why would you not tell these things?
I mean, arent they supposed to be your life partner? So, does that mean you dont trust them?

I have things i would never say.
Then, as soon as I let that thought cross my mind, I think " I can wait about.. 10 years.. then say that"
Or -" maybe next year I can let that off my mind.."

I am not sure if it is fear that keeps me from talking, but I will never tell Mr Wolf somethings. . .! Never.. no way.

I am noticing this even in day to day life.
I can have something on my mind, he will realize it, and ask - My responce is almost always.. Nothing.. sorry I was just thinking.
Im not plotting to kill a thousand people. Laughing

I could simply be thinking about dishes, or a dirty car, but I wont tell him
Not in a million years.. Confused

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Everybody has their secrets.... I have thing I wouldn't tell a soul... not even if I trusted that person with all of my life... Somethings are just not meant to be said I guess....

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There are a few things that I've never told anyone and would never, ever tell my husband.

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but , arent the husbands/wives supposed to be the one person you CAN tell things like that too?

I have a few things that may never cross my lips again. I hardly acknowledge I did them .. let alone think about telling anyone..

But then i think about trust, and safety with Mr and I sort of feel guilty that I DONT share everything with him..

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I'll be back but for now:

Your true love is your true love--not a garbage dump.

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ouch.
Great point.

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Even in a partnership/marriage there's a right of privacy. This includes the right to keep a part of my life secret.

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I've always had secrets. It has nothing to do with trust.

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Right. Even married you are still a seperate individual person. So you deserve privacy, even if it comes in the form of a secret. Provided it is not damaging to the marriage or the other person, I see no harm in it. Especially if it happened before the marriage.

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I think I'd put it in the category of whether it's his business or not. Like, I do think there are some things that are his business and he has the right to know, and then there is a whole lot that isn't his business.

I have kept journals since I was a kid, and he has a lot of correspondence he's kept, and we've explicitly agreed that if one of us kicks the bucket, that stuff is gotten rid of without being read. (One set of correspondence is with a quite famous person who has since died, so I might give it to that person's curators, or something. Hmm, I should ask him about that.)

Anyway, I'm always conscious that things can't be unsaid once said, and that's part of what I use journals for -- trying out various arguments/ approaches and, after filterless dumping there, figuring out what is worth saying face-to-face.

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that is true.
you can never take back words that come out of your mouth.

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So what are these things?

You won't tell your spouses, but there's no reason to hold back on the intra-net.

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i was born a man
hows THAT ?

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shewolfnm wrote:

i was born a man
hows THAT ?

I was just ready to post the same thing.

Wow. We seriously are from the same mother...my brotha from anotha mutha.

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I meant something that isn't painfully obvious.

D'OH!

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Slappy Doo Hoo wrote:

So what are these things?

You won't tell your spouses, but there's no reason to hold back on the intra-net.

I do not tell my husband I am actually the Queen of Baroufradoo so he does not let it accidently slip during a weak moment with his buddy Muftuphid.

It would bring the whole royal family into jeopardy.

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There were a number of things I would never tell the lady Diane, I told her all of them during the frist 3 days of our relationship. She is bored. Now I make up things to tell her. She loves the stories about the midget triplets with the flat heads and big ears.

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I don't use make up, I'm a beauty without it.

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Walter has yet to tell Ms Walter about his seret stash of hidden maps.

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That's of course part of privacy. (Besides, because I was a navigator, that's even Nato Secret.)

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