ossobuco wrote: Represent yourself well and straightforwardly, I say (if you can figure approximately what you think), sometimes preferably done lightly and with wit. Since most of us can't gather lightness and wit when we need them, then just mild but firm straightforward gets you there faster than games ever will.
Ossobuco; that quote is brilliant! I'm gonna paste it on my fridge.
Oh the pain I could have saved myself if I would have learned this earlier! Guess some of us have to learn the hard way (over and over and over again)
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Lindsay:
You need to step back and get some perspective on this situation.
You decided to marry a man who has fathered three other children (that you have mentioned).
You decided to have a child with this man.
Like it or not: you are not the most important person in this deal.
THE KIDS ARE.
Sorry for shouting; but c'mon!
You are being immature and selfish.
I personally can not understand why you would put yourself in this situation to begin with; but for whatever reason you must care about this man. Either way; you have gotten married and had a child.
And yup; he is the father of those other kids. Swallow it. You're gonna have to deal with some uncomfortable situations. You're gonna have to rise above; because that is what you married into! Not to mention the fact that your child was brought into this mess.
Basically, you signed on for this deal, so give it your all.
You are part of an extended family whether you like it or not. And your daughter is. You better find a way to make it work. If you don't, it won't just be you who suffers. It will be your daughter, and a ripple effect will travel through this whole family.
It sounds like most of the people involved are quite civil actually; and are trying to make it work.
You have an opportunity to have a great life.
Take the opportunity and enjoy it!