msolga wrote:...
Is it unreasonable to expect children to behave differently in a public place like a restaurant than in their own lounge rooms?
'Course not, unless you talk to some parents. Then again, some parents are not in control. Their kids are.
We've been to more than one restaurant where the experience was, shall we say, not enhanced, by kids kicking each other, yelling, screaming, crying, throwing stuff, running up and down the aisles, bothering the servers, etc. And the parents did nothing to try to remedy the problem.
Now, I understand that people cannot always afford a sitter or perhaps they are trying to use the opportunity to teach their children manners. And I have no problem with parents who make an effort to get things under control, even if their efforts prove futile. What bothers me if parents who do absolutely nothing, and just let it happen. It really makes me wonder about how they are in all other aspects of their children's lives. And, bottom line, some things in restaurants are less than safe for children, e. g. the presence of steak knives, hot plates being carried around, heavy trays that can come crashing down on someone's head, etc., and it's troubling when parents do not see these potential problems and work to avoid them.
Three ways of getting around this -
1) Eat later. Families want dinner at 5, 6 PM, so eat at 8 and they are generally long gone, even in family-style restaurants.
2) Eat at more expensive, upscale places, although keep in mind that that does not always work as there are folks who think their precious darlings are perfectly suited for Tavern on the Green, etc. The more a meal costs per person, the less likely a family is to go there. If you're at McDonald's or Applebee's, though, you kind of need to expect there are going to be families there, as those places are some of the most affordable, and McD's, of course, is very kid-centric.
3) Eat at places that don't have the kinds of foods most kids go for. Avoid burgers and fries, go for sushi or French Continental (e. g. escargot is on the menu). Again, this isn't a sure thing, but you will reduce the odds.