kitkat_bar wrote: its about a big decision between both partners. It is similar to the same decision about having a child and being ready for one. Just because I don't have any doesn't mean I am not allowed to have an opinion. I am not saying my opinion wont change,
Exactly my dear, you can't say your opinion won't change, so at the same time you can't say that you're husbands opinion won't change.
Time, time, time........important decisions like this are not made over 1 or 2 conversations.....sometimes letting things just lie let's them ripen and mature.
you're not having a baby now, this is not something that needs to be decided by the end of the weekend, let it go, let it go....
You mentioned something about saying this is something of a power struggle.
Think about this....Did you marry this man to love and live with each other in harmony, or to have power struggles?
Is is more important for one of you to be right, right now, or to come to a mutual decision, in time.
Sometimes I joke with my husband, telling him "you are water on a rock"
Think of what happens kittkatt, when water slowly drips on a rock, for a long time.
This is not a battle to be won or lost, and not one to be resolved in a day.
Ask my wolverine. If done correctly, the rock doesn't even know it's being worn away. I've seen him so many times with others, it makes me laugh... the other person will be bound and determined to get his way, but then, they will at one time say, "hey, I've got an idea, why don't we do THIS" and it's what wolverine was after the whole time.
Now THAT's a win/win situation, wolvie gets his way, and the other person is so happy they came up with the idea.