ehBeth, are you talking about me?! jk.
You're right! Not all of us are born knowing how to contribute to a healthy, mature relationship. Some of us are actually starting out with incorrect, wacky habits and patterns. Our learning curve isnt just the regular "oh , I haven't been here before, what do I do?". It involves unlearning and experiencing some things for the first time with our partner; that many folks take for granted as something they received in childhood.
Ok, so why am I going on and on about this?
I had read this thread , watching its progress, and I wanted to say something before but felt finger-tied. It almost felt like "wow, I am so jealous you can even suggest that teenage relationships can work out! What a luxury, that they aren't just total crap".
I'm 26; and I am just now really settling into myself in a real way. My relationships are finally at a point where they are not about sex, unfurfilled needs, expectations, and other gobblety-gook that isn't that important (at least not important enough to form a long-lasting relationship on).
Some people never learn; I've found. It doesn't matter about age. A lot of it has to do with circumstances, life, and personality type. Other than that; it can be about having to get burnt badly enough to know what it's all about.
thanks.
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