thanks for te help will let you know how it goes
I will know however what is response will be hewill be immensly upset and then he will agree with what i say and agree that he needs some professional help i just know thats what will happen and then he will get no help until the next major cattatrophy happens and we have this discussion again
Bjj--
If you are serious, tomorrow should be your last discussion.
If you're not serious, you can ride the merry-go-round for the rest of your life.
Act for yourself.
i hope tomorrow is my last disucssion about this i hope that he conceds that he needs help gets it and becoms a better person but sometimes you need to excersie some hard love for that to sink in i think
Talk the talk, and if necessary, walk the walk.
bjj,
It looks like you're in good hands within this forum.
My two cents would be that a big part of being in a long-lasting, satisfying relationship with someone is the pure comfort level that you experience with that person and only that person.
If your boyfriend is consistently doing things that make you feel uncomfortable, you are being robbed of one of the greatest joys of having a relationship.
ok well i spoke to hi m las nigt he was really upset crying the hwole bit and vowed to get some help with counselling for his anger althought he was not sure if it was related to his driving.
I ssaid we should have a break for a little while but that was really hard, when i lef he said can i call you tomorrow i didnt know what to say im really confused i dont really want to have a break from him
bjj--
If he's going to try to change, great.
If he's not....you'll either have to take him as he is, temper tantrums and all--or leave him.
Life isn't easy and Love isn't simple.
i think what i have realised that i do love him and walking out isnt a great thing right now he neds my support while he gets this help What do other people think did i make th right choice
Absolutely.
Make it clear that the future you two have together is conditional upon him changing.
Then support him while he tries to change.
Believe me, I've been in a relationship with temper tantrums and I found it exhausting.
thansk again for your help it is good to have someone give you some advice about these issue
How did your go are you still with the person
bjj--
My temper tantrum boy has been out of my life for more than 30 years--and my life has been much more pleasant.
I understand through the grapevine, that he is still prone to tantrums.
His kids don't respect him much.
I totally agree with Bella. I couldn't have said it any better.
wel we are having a break as of tonight im fed up all we do is now argue its about petty things but it still gets me down and it hapens almost everyday. Any advice i now feel so alone after being in this relationship for nine yeras
not yet thi week
but now im starting to think that there are deeper problems then that like the arguing all the time over petty things i dont know if thats because of the anger or it is just because we are sick of each other
You're probably right about the bickering being a symptom of your swain's problems.
One way or another, with grandure with the death of 10,000 cuts, he wants to be In Charge.
