Gidgit--
The more information I hear, the more "mid-life crisis" seems like a good diagnosis.
The crisis is his, but in a marriage what preoccupies one partner affects the other. You haven't had an "easy" marriage, either and because you are a major part of your husband's world, he can't help but see you as part of the problem.
Quote:Says that he loves me, but not in love with me.
That statement isn't easy for a loving woman to absorb, but remember, he's not passionate about anything right now--not you, not his job, not his hobbies, not his friends.....
Will he consider counseling?
Will you consider counseling? Your frequent miscarriages have caused you great unhappiness and your husband's confusion and growing pains are another load on your already taxed psyche.