Oh I see. He's making YOU feel guilty because he hurt you. Then piles on even more manipulation. See through this ploy as it really is - he's taking advantage of you and has borderline abusive tendencies.
You are NOT being unreasonable asking your partner not to hurt you. Yet he continues the same pattern.
The purpose of dating is for compatibility. To me, this is not compatible behavior. I'd drop him and fast. Before he thinks other abusive practices are ok.