Bad Stomach pains - please can anybody help?

My first suggestion: Take some anti-gas tablets if that does not work then get thee to a doctor post haste since it might be more serious.

have tried those, didnt help
was hoping to avoid doctor but will go when i
get backfrom work
shouldn't be here anyway i guess

thanks for replying sturgis
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sculptin'- It may be nothing, but you have no way of knowing that. Going to the doctor is the best thing for you to do. Good luck, and let us know how you made out!

I got bad pains too(see food poisoning thread)
Its like a bad case of when i eat dairy(im lactose intolerent) and there is stabbing pains in my stomach to the point where I cant stand up straight.

Hope the doc sorts you out.Im gona put mine down to some badly cooked food.

Sculptin', Phoenix is right. What if there is a tear in your intestines or stomach lining? Have you been excreting blood? Even if the answer on that is no there could still be a serious health concern. Please, do not wait until it is too late.

There are a ton of things it could be. Something you ate, gas, appendicitis, pancreitis (sp?) or blockage. Go to a doctor. You will thank yourself later.

thankyou for your advice everyone,
have got an appointment for later today

hope you feel better soon material girl

Thanks, keep us posted.

Ive felt dodgey for about 2 weeks but Im an awful cook.Dont reckon the docs got any tablets to make be better in the kitchen.

Good luck.

go to the doc post haste...take it from me.

i just read the post i left yesterday, hell that doesnt even sound like me.
didnt realise how close im getting to losing my grip

went to the doc, he told me that there is nothing wrong with me
and that this is due to stress
i suppose he could be right i have been very upset recently (am going to a close friends funeral tomaorrow), but didnt realise it could be physical?
so even tho i am in a lot of pain at least i have the consolation of knowing it doesnt really exist
anyway, sorry for making a fuss over nothing
thanks for your kind words, am feeling very much in need of moral support right now

Oh, sculptin,

Stress can do horrid things to your body. With a funeral tomorrow it certainly sounds like you have plenty of stress right now. I am so sorry.

Your pain is VERY real. Don't try to downplay that it doesn't exist. If it didn't exist then you wouldn't be hurting now would you? Just because the doc didn't find anything physical, does not men that you are not feeling plenty of pain.

And I do understand what you are going through. Losing someone very close to you can be terribly painful, both emotionally and physically. Three years ago I lost my sister and during the 12 months following that I lost another 14 family members or very close friends. It was the year from hell.

Give yourself the gift of time if you can do so. Grieve the loss of your dear friend and never feel ashamed or apologize for how you are feeling. My own therapist told me that the full grieving process takes about three years and in living through a great many losses in a short period of time, I would say she is quite correct.

I cannot be there with you tomorrow in person, but please know that I am there with you in spirit if you need someone to lean on.

thanx lady j
it was complete hell, but at least that part is over now
couldnt say goodbye, i dont think it has quite sunk in yet tho

ah well....

Emotional pain can manifest itself in physical symptoms. It's very common and nothing to be ashamed about.

Interesting thing about saying goodbye, sculptin'. I have never said goodbye to my sister and don't really plan on it. She lives on in my heart and in my thoughts every single day. It may sound strange, but I have my own private conversations with her a lot! and I actually look forward to the time when I will see her again, albeit not in this sphere.

The first two years were definitely the hardest. I would actually pick up the phone to call her and then it would hit me, or I'd hear the phone ring and know it would be her, but of course it never was.

I allowed myself to go through every single step of the grieving process.There are basically four emotions that we all cycle through to complete the healing process of loss and they may come and go in no expected order. Like a broken bone that won't heal correctly on its own without setting the bone, casting the area, giving it time to heal and then slowly rebuilding its strength, our hearts work basically the same way when it comes to healing them.

The four healing emotions are anger, sadness, fear and sorrow. If we allow ourselves to fully express and feel each of these deeply and not try to push any of them aside just to "be strong", we usually come out of our grief, stronger and much more accepting than we ever thought we could be.

There is no set time period when it comes to grief. Your friend was obviously very, very dear to you. The relationship you had with your dear friend was different than any other relationship because it belonged to the two of you and no one else. Where someone else may seem over your friends loss in a matter of weeks, you feel free to take as much time as you need and never feel guilty about it at all. Just ride the wave until it brings you safely back to the shore.

I'm glad yesterday is over for you and I'm sure it must have been hell as you mentioned. Don't look for overnight miracles about feeling better. Be extra kind to yourself, embrace what you two had with loving thoughts and one day, instead of tears of sorrow, you will hopefully be shedding tears of joy at the fond memories you have shared.

At the moment I am feeling mainly anger

At him for leaving me, at myself for not realising that he needed help

And I resent the fact that it was me who found his body hanging from the stairs, even tho i wouldnt have wished it on anybody else

i feel as if everyone blames me, because we were together just half an hour before, but i swear i had no idea

most of all i feel like i let him down when he really needed me

Why in the world do you think its nothing? The stress of finding someone dead, can be traumatic for anyone.

Be good to yourself. You have been through a shock. Give yourself time to heal. You are not responsible for what your friend did. He was.

Sculptin', that's terrible. Take things very gently for a time, OK?

Sculptin,

What you have been through is surely one of the hardest things you will ever experience in your life. Suicide is never easy to understand, even for those who are closest to that person.

How could you have known? Most people who actually commit suicide carry their feelings about that act so deep inside that even family and the very dearest of friends are unaware of the feelings of despair and hopelessness. While many times they may act a bit despondent now and then, unless we are trained psychologists or psychiatrists and looking for the signs, they are elusive to the layman.

What happened is in NO WAY your fault and there is nothing that you should or could blame yourself for. And nothing that anyone else can blame you for either. You may have been the very last ray of sunshine your friend felt and he surely went knowing he was loved, at least by you.

None of us can know what goes on in the minds and hearts of any other living soul unless they are fully willing to open up and tell us. A good deal of people who take their own lives have thought long and hard about their decision and have even made peace with themselves before doing so. They may even seem quite happy and cheerful as if a burden has been lifted from their shoulders. That demonstration of happiness in itself leaves those behind even more confused and angry and guilty, because they had no way of knowing!

It's ok to be angry for now. But don't just be angry at yourself. Go ahead and be angry at your friend as well. In replaying all the woulda, shoulda coulda's that YOU perceive YOU might have done, think also of all the woulda, shoulda, coulda's your friend might have done too to make things end up differently. Don't do any of it with blame however, do it with reflection to finally find acceptance and forgiveness.

Forgive yourself for what you could not have possibly known and forgive your friend for leaving you in the way that he did. He and he alone was responsible for his ultimate actions, not you my friend.

As Phoenix and msolga have both said, be extra, extra kind to yourself right now. Please don't beat yourself up for something you had no control over. If you feel that a trained counselor, an impartial party might best be able to help you put your feelings into perspective, by all means seek one out. You have been through more trauma than simply have a friend pass away. You were much closer to the entire event than anyone and having the ability to speak with someone to help you is often times so much easier than carrying the burden yourself.

If you feel like talking about your friend here, we will be more than happy to hear about him, the good times and the sad. We care about you, Sculptin and only want the very best for you.

Scluptin'
My friend committed suicide as well and I too thought "why didn't I see it? Could I have said something different? Could I have done something to prevent it?" I was in high school at the time and the day after his death, I was cleaning out his locker and found pictures of funerals and caskets and I wanted to hit something because why hadn't I seen this! Why hadn't I noticed that he was dwelling on death? I felt so guilty inside I just wanted to curl up and go away. I know how you feel.

It took me years to get used to the idea of him being gone. And it took me even longer to realize that what he had done, he would have done no matter what. It was his decision, not mine.

I know you are hurting inside. You are probably angry that he didn't leave you with an answers. Angry that he was so selfish. Angry that you didn't get to say good bye. And sad that your friend is gone. I've been where you are my friend and know that I, as well as many others, are here for you.

It's OK to feel angry and sad. What he did to you and all the people that love him was rotten. It's OK to be angry. That was the biggest thing for me. I felt guilty for being mad at him. But it's ok. Any emotions you have are valid and you need to let them out. Take care of yourself.