Fri 17 Dec, 2021 09:07 pm
Okay so this is my first time buying gifts for my aunt's kids, but her and her ex bf broke up. Also her kids live with him right now just for convenient reasons. Anyways just today he said their kids are coming tomorrow to open up my christmas presents that i bought them, even thought everyone else in the family keeps saying no, since it's not even christmas yet. He says the kids will be only allowed to come tomorrow to open up my presents because right after christmas he'll be busy with work. He literally won't take no for an answer, and we keep telling him if the kids don't come on christmas day to open up the presents, the presents will still be under the tree for as long as it takes them to come over. Then he goes on to saying how i'm 'ruining the kids christmas' as he says it, that i won't let them open presents tomorrow and that i can take back my presents i bought them since i wont let them open it up 8 days early. everything always have to be on his terms, he's so selfish. saying how 'you bought the kids presents early so now you won't let them open them up tomorrow, you're ruining their christmas'. also everyone won't be opening their presents up until the kids come over so not only would they be waiting, but everyone else also. and just a note he has a new gf and he'll already be celebrating christmas with her and his side of the family at his house with the kids, and he has the audacity to say all this.
He sounds like a weird, controlling jerk, and I'm glad your aunt is rid of him.
Are the kids old enough to ask what they would prefer?
yes the oldest said she agrees with the rest of us and as for the youngest im unsure, because she's still young and sometimes has trouble understanding things.
Then Xmas won't be "ruined" for the older one.
As for the younger one, I have no idea how a holiday can be ruined for a child who is getting multiple presents and a lot of attention.
Both of you are acting poorly.
In essence, you're holding Christmas gifts for children hostage until they come see you. And the ex carves out time in a very busy season and you go wild.
He's not acting any better either. He should not be threatening to not allow gifts for children at Christmas.
If your sole aim to to make the kids happy and bestow gifts upon them, then take the gifts to them so they can open the gifts on Christmas day. If not, really, what's the big deal about celebrating before the big day instead of after?
Why don't you just drop the presents off with your aunt and have done with it?
That's a great idea, izzy... also, when does the mom get visitation? They can open them then, no?
Christmas Day is big enough without going out visiting as well.
When I say visiting I mean not having Christmas Dinner, although a friend of mine is going out to see friends after dinner, but they're all adults. I wouldn't want to take little kids out on Christmas Day, they don't want to go out, they want to play with their toys.
I didn't mean Christmas day. I meant surely the mom gets to see her kids and they can do a separate Christmas if they want to watch them opening them.
Since you are related to the mother of the children, wherever they are all together ( mom and you and kids ) is where the gift opening should take place.
Leave him out of it.
Just my opinion.