@Mame,
And that's the think. I'm trying my best to assure her that her thoughts are just her thoughts. She puts these things into her head and they stick which to her means, they're right. I can only appease her so much then I start lashing back.
Last Sat morning I gout out in the driveway and was going to wash both our cars but I had a zoom meeting for a committee I'm involved in with our church at noon. Around 11 I ran into the house to jump in the shower for the meeting and I told my wife I would wash her car later in the day once it cooled down and before my zoom meeting had even began she asked me "why didn't you just wash my car first?" She has to be first on everything.
We could be sitting down watching TV and Idris Elba or Boris Kodjoe cam come on the screen and she goes all giddy school girl over them. But the minute I say anything about Cardi B. or Megan The Stallion then I'm obviously looking at other women wanting to cheat.
Yes, I'm friend with a number of my exes and if I run into them somewhere I'll say hey, how have you been, you know, the pleasantries. To her, that's paramount to me wanting to get back with them.
You even tried to speak with or explain something to someone but no matter what you say they are going to always think you're wrong? That's my wife.
And I am not going to cave to every one of her demands because the minute I do then she's going to think I suppose to cave to everything she says.